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writes:What would you do in this scenario? I met his exGF of 12 years - they lived together all that time, no kids. I went with him to meet her. She is constantly wanting to see him and I've told him I'm not comfortable with that. Well she keeps asking so I went with him. We've been together over a year and I've been trying to understand why they're still "friends" if they don't have kids, business, friends or close proximity in common. Well its obvious, he has "Nice Guy Syndrome" and she has "Clingy Ex GF Syndrome". She still wants the emotional intimacy they had when they were a couple. Although I tried to converse with her, she made it clear that she was there to reimenense with him about their home, neighbors, trips, etc. He says its up to me whether he'll stay in touch with her. I don't want to be telling him who he can be friends with but this chick is crossing the line and Mr. Nice doesn't seem to think its an issue. What should I do? Has anyone had any luck with a situation like this? I don't want her meeting him every month and continuing to call/txt/email everytime her washing machine is on the fritz. Help!
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reader, Deagan +, writes (14 February 2012):
 OP, state to your man exactly what you stated here.-You tried to converse with her and tried to be cordial, but she did not reciprocate.-Really emphasize that your uncomfortable with it once again, and this time, ask what he would do if the tables were turned and your ex was constantly asking you to hang out or help him with his washing machine. Make him answer that. Chances are he wouldn't like it if you were chatting with your ex of 12 years. Interesting how he says "it's up to you whether or not he'll stay in touch with her or not."Well, hold him true to his words. Explain that it puts you in an uncomfortable situation and you worry that she will try to ruin the relationship, and that you don't want that. If he is committed to you, he would respect that and tell her to stop contacting him.
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