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writes: HeyIm a 17 year old girl and... as of last night, no longer a virgin. The trouble I'm having is... they guy I lost it to, would definately not be my first choice. It hurt like crazy, and Ive only known him for 2 weeks. At the time, it seemed like the thing to do... natural next step and all that, but now Im regretting it. Im worried that no guy will ever look at me the same, or want anything to do with me after this... I was just wondering if Im being irrational now, or was I being more irrational and stupid last night...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): no you are not being irraional. i feel the same way also. i lost mine wen i was 14 and i regret it. i knew he boy ever since i was 5 and i had only dated him for but a wk and a 1/2 being that me and him went way back, i couldnt continue with the relationship because i saw him as a brother. so we broke up and like 3 minutes later (i) asked him for sex (which was dumb) becuz i had seen his penis and saw that it was large so i wanted to see how it'd feel to have sex with a boy with a big thing. but then after we didi it the next day he started ,not ignoring me, but avoiding me kinda. so i felt that he used me. then he started talking to me but now he is in jail. i was 14 n he was 17. i wish i didnt have sex with him because on my secind time with some one smaller then him i really couldnt feel anytthing. but thats just how it is . u make mistakes then u learn from them
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reader, Yos  +, writes (17 July 2006):
 The main thing is to just learn from your experiences. Ask yourself what you have learned. Write it down. And then, when the situation comes around again, make sure you think back and act on it. Don't let circumstances, and the pressure of a man or what your friends might think of you dictate your actions. At the end of the day you have to live with yourself, and you are the only true judge of your actions. Believe in yourself, your feelings, and your absolute right to own your own body. No one else can.
We all make mistakes. What separates us is what we do with them afterwards..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2006): I recently lost my virginity and like you im regreting it big time and panicking about everything. The biggest drunken mistake of my life. I've never had a serious boyfriend and felt pressured as only one of my friends is still a virgin! Only one friend knows and i feel bad to even talk to my best friend about it. I missed the morning after pill and i'm waiting to come on my period at the end of this week. Im the same as i only knew the guy a day. It makes me feel sick to think about it. I feel ashamed please help me x
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reader, jezibelinhell +, writes (17 July 2006):
 My first time was way to soon, highly inappropriate, and definitely with the wrong person but you know what? I don't regret a thing. Every single thing I've done throughout my life...both good and bad has made me who I am. My family and all my friends love me bunches and I consider myself to be a great person. Don't ever waste a single moment of your life on regret. Use the negative as a learning experience. And by the way...Hymen or not, you are still the same person you were yesterday ;)
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (16 July 2006):
 Irrational? Stupid? No... "Swept up in the moment" would be my assessment.
Most men aren't going to look down on you in future - you're about the average age for first-time sex, and you've only had a single partner - but I think having sex with a guy you've only known for a fortnight is rushing things a bit. As you probably do, here in the cold light of day.
There's no taking back your choice, so accept that it wasn't ideal circumstances and move on with a bit more wisdom than before. Please DON'T feel obligated to keep having sex with this man, just because you've opened the flood gates. Before you make a choice to continue to have sex, be sure the next time (and the time after that) that you really ~want~ it, and that you're comfortable with and excited about the prospect. Those factors go a long way towards making it the experience it should be.
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (16 July 2006):
 I have to say been there done that, bought the t-shirt, wore the t-shirt, re-wore the t-shirt and hopeful gonna burn the t-shirt. lol...haha
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reader, katzkitten +, writes (16 July 2006):
 Dont have any regrets.you only live once. It may not have been the ideal 1st time but you learn from your mistakes. and be able to warn others not to make the same one. Very few peoples 1st times is how they imagine it.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (16 July 2006):
 This is an irrational thought. You will be loved again and despite what you read on here sometimes, not all men are so shallow to only look for a virgin!!
You are having regrets over what you have done.....and all you ahve done is get carried away in the moment which is not a big deal so stop beating yourself up about it honey!!
Just slow down, next time you get into this situation please jsut try to make sure it is with somebody you have feelings for and dont let yourself get carried away in the moment.
xx
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