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writes:So, I recently turned twenty one and I've been with my current boyfriend for four months, who is twenty five. He's the only boyfriend I've ever had and it is very serious and it's likely to lead to marriage.For Valentines Day, we went on a romantic trip. We had sex for the first time, and yes, I was a virgin. I gave it a lot of thought and consideration before it happened. So, I have a few quick questions:1. It was VERY painful the first time, and still slightly painful the next couple of times. Is that normal? I know its supposed to hurt the first time but I didn't expect *that* much pain.2. I haven't been able to orgasm. We've had sex five times by now and I still can't orgasm. I'm not sure whats wrong but I don't really have anyone to ask or turn to since I come from a very conservative background.3. I get this weird sensation like I have to pee, but I don't have to actually go. I'm wondering if that's supposed to lead to an orgasm but I have *no* idea.Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo we tried again tonight and I still can't get there. I get really close but I'm not sure whether I'm supposed to relax and release it or push it out like pee.
And I think my boyfriend is starting to feel really bad because he can't get me off. I'm afraid it'll start to affect his confidence in his ability.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (16 February 2011):
 Hi...1. No sex should not be painful even the first time. Women are supposed to produce natural lubrication during foreplay but it's not always enough. Try some drugstore lubricant (in the same aisle as the condoms). 2. Don't worry about having an orgasm - that will happen. You just started having sex! Eventually if your bf cares enough about you he will find out what turns you on and what will produce an orgasm. It just takes time, that's all. 3. And yes that weird sensation that you have to urinate is what I would call a "pre" orgasm - you're getting there! PS - please be sure to use reliable birthcontrol every time or go on the pill. I am sure you don't want an unplanned baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): Baby girl its normal, its just that its your first experience, don't be complecated, i beleive your relationship will last. But my fear is that now you are no more a vagin, you must know how to control yourself. Ok
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