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writes:Look I know I'm too young and this might sound stupid to your ears (mine too), but this is how I feel. I'm a 15 year old male and I really want to have sex... yes I know I have self control but it's really hard having to deal with the urges all the time. I feel the closer I get to a girl, either in a friendship relationship or bf/gf.. I want it even more.. like right now I feel really deep emotions for one of my female friends but I can't do anything about it, she has a bf.I don't know what's wrong with me, my emotions have been everywhere like a rollercoaster, up and down, up and down. Sometimes when I get frustrated I get really angry... but I try my best not to blow out on anybody especialy the ones I care about..What is wrong with me?? For the whole sex thing, I know you're gonna just tell me to masturbate a lot but is masturbating wrong???? Some guys make fun of it at school and they say that if you do that it means that you're just gay and desperate (to feel on yourself)???thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): There probably just worried about you. Parents just want what they think is best for their kids.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question not really, they want me to finnish high schoo l before i get into the whole girlfriend business....they say it'll mess me up on my school work
but it wont, i can juggle alot of things at the same time, im very responsible and a straight student so that'll no problem for me
i dont know why they are so whaked out about every thing..i can take care of myself
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 April 2009):
 Have they told you when you will be allowed to date?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question uhh, my parents get on my nerves soo much..they're super overprotective...they always think some thing bad's gonna happen...they only thing about the negatives and it's really streessful
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): Sorry mate, I didn't mean to imply that you didn’t want to be in a relationship, I was just putting the question out there for other people who might be dealing with the same things you are.
Try not to stress too much over the whole girlfriend thing, when the times right everything will fall into place.
Sucks about you’re parents not letting you date, why are they against it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question ofcourse i want a relation ship...i dont just want to just have sex for the funn of it...
but it's kinda difficult for me because i've never had a girlfriend before and my parents dont allow me to so it'll be hard to get awy with it
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): Sup buddy, this is a bit of a long answer :p
Being 15 and wanting sex doesn't sound stupid. When I was 15 it was pretty much all I thought about too. It's all part of the fun of growing up.
The reason your feelings are all over the place is because your hormones will be going mental. Puberty is about growing up and becoming sexually mature, it's just the way things are.
It’s difficult for everyone to deal with, but it’s HOW you deal with it that’s important. As you grow; the feelings for girls you find attractive and care about will too. The question is do you want to be in a relationship with these girls, or do you just want to get laid?
Personally I had a lot of crushes when I was around your age but I didn’t have sex until I was in my first committed relationship, and even now I wonder if I made the right choice. Just keep in mind that sex can, and normally does, complicate a relationship, and you need to be aware of that.
The anger is normal too, and it’s really good that you don't want to freak out on your friends. You might find other emotions flying around in your head at random times too. Try not to let it get you down.
As for the masturbating, that’s normal, and it doesn’t make you gay or desperate. There is some research that shows that masturbating can help to lower the risk of cancer. Plus let’s face it, its fun too.
At the end of the day, what you is your decision, don’t let peer pressure, or anything else for that matter, force you into doing something you don’t want to do.
Oh, and if you do have sex, use protection
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