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writes:Hi, I'm 15 and I have an amazing girlfriend, she's also 15. Well we've been going out for two years and we've had our ups and downs but were still together. here are some of the bad things. She cheated on me about 2 or 3 times with her her ex that cheated on her (this guy just so happens to be my cousin but were nothing alike) so many times. she's told me that she cheated right away (when I say cheat I mean like they made out but nothing more than that) which is god right? second: she drinks way to much when the chance comes around and she does stupid things like make out with her ex and smoke pot. third: she smokes which isn't okay with me cause I care about her a lot. She told me she smoked a month ago and she said she's been doing it for a year or 2 and she just now told me. Good things - she's always been there for me. When I needed space she didn't try to stop me. She didn't ask for me to buy her things which is good and when I did wanna buy her something she refused but I did anyway. So is it best for us to stay together or go our seprerate ways? she still talks to her ex, still drinks, and still smokes but she tels me when shes guna do this so well idk why she just does. any advice?
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reader, Crusty1  +, writes (16 April 2009):
I don't mean to sound insensitive, but Get the heck out of that relationship!
It is not up to you to save this girl from the choices she's making. Plus, she's cheated on you several times. You're still very young. There are plenty of girls out there who don't drink & smoke, and won't cheat on you either.
Love hurts sometimes, but it shouldn't hurt all the time - or most of the time either.
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reader, MyDestiny +, writes (31 March 2009):
 explain the facts of her doing all that crap to herself, it's bad for her,
drinking?? ssmoking pot??
she could geet so drunk that she ends up having unprotected sex, and get hiv/std's or gets pregnant, or gets raped, or gets in a car accident
and the smoking is just killing her lungs and she's basicly just creating a lifeline for herself.......
give her the facts, and tell her that your're only telling her this because you love her and dont want anything bad to happen to her...but if she's still stubborn and wont take reason , just leave the subject and let her do what she wants to do
and about the stay or go thing...i think you guys should try and work out the problems, and give it better chance//....
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