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writes: I recently met a man online, he seemed nice, and would contact me everyday and also added me on a well known social network. We became close over the weeks. Both of us agreed that we were not ready to meet up just yet as we are both cautious after meeting online.He is in the army and told me he may be going overseas. Since he has told me this he has been contacting me less, but I still get the odd message from him asking how I am etc..This mans knows I'm interested in him and I thought he was interested in me, but now it seems that he just wants to be friends. He is about the same age as me and already seems to have a lot of friends, so its not as if he is just lonely. Is he a player?
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (15 April 2011):
 You might be a real support to this guy while he's overseas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your input ladies.
"cupidus" that was sad about your friend and I appreciate your advise, your very right in what you say.
Thank you "anon" for your input also, he doesn't seem to be in the habit of adding random people on this social network site though.
I have decided to take your advise "cupidus" and be pen pals without putting expectations on it and just see what happens.
Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): As a woman who as experience in the field of online friend-making, infact it's where I met my current boyfriend, I have learned that most mean join social networking sites known for making new friends simply for something to do. They do tend to gain many flirtationships. Also it is used to build self confidence, their ego builds as their friends list does. So it is very likely he is playing you. The fact he has began to contact you less could mean he does seen the relationship to be as important as you do, on the other maybe he is just genuinely a nice guy and feels as he is leaving it would be wrong of him to lead you on. I recommend an in-depth conversation with him about how he feels and if he plans on pursuing contact when he goes to the army.
You have nothing to lose!
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reader, cupidus +, writes (6 April 2011):
I wouldn't call him a player, you're both playing right now.You can't start labeling and boxing him in and you shouldn't.He's a guy and in the army and preparing to go overseas.That's alot on ones mind. Plus in the army they keep you pretty busy. I say keep him as a pen pal, you may get some very interesting stories.I was talking online with a guy in the army and it was interesting, however when the war started in Iraq he was one of the first black hawks down. Really sad, very nice guy.So you see, whenever you're in contact with another human being, you should just be well... human.Offer more positive feed than the expectation of getting fed.All of us should remember to set out a feast on our tables of life. It is in the offering the giving that one is never hungry, always full and when we're full we all like to smile a hell of a lot more.
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