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writes:Okay so here's my story. Sophomore year I had a huge crush on this guy, let's call him Jeremy. My best friend at the time (let's call her Shay) knew of this crush, and after a few months of me crushing pretty hard decided she liked him too. So they started dating and I got over him in a few months, and they were together for two years. Now Shay was never a very good friend, she'd flake and stuff and cheated on every guy she'd dated. Turns out this time was no different. So anyways, because Shay was my best friend and her and Jeremy were always together, I got to know him pretty well and we became pretty good friends. Shay and I had a falling out and I hadn't really talked to Jeremy in a few months, until last night. Last night he texted me out of the blue and asked me what I was doing, I told him I was going to this party and he ended up coming. I didn't have my phone on me a lot of the night, and when I checked it I had a bunch of messages from him asking if I was going to stay and please stay, etc. I was very drunk at this point. As was he. So I stay and everyone else leaves. He kisses me, I kiss him. This goes on for a few minutes. Hands start drifting and I tell him it's moving too fast for me (I'm a virgin) and he backs off. Well I'm drunk and I didnt want him to feel bad so I kiss again, hands drift and this time I'm okay with it. I don't really remember exactly what happened, but I know he wanted to have sex then and I tell him it's too fast again. He backs off and while we're laying there watching a movie and I'm trying to think of what to say to explain, I pass out. I wake up and I'm on one of the matresses on the ground but he's on the couch and the host of the party is on the other mattress (weird yeah, but anyways.)I need some advice. It was so unexpected and I'm one of those people who like to think things through to make sense of it, and I can't wrap my head around it. I want to know, in your opinion, (and please bear in mind that this is probably the nicest, sweetest guy I know), does he actually like me? Was it just a drunken thing? I'm just so confused and I don't know where to take it from here. I don't know if I should text him about something or wait for him to get a hold of me, or if I should even expect him to get a hold of me. I just need help please.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (3 November 2008):
 So is this guy still with your best friend? That's not clear to me... because if he is, then I'll tell you right now - that guy is absolutely no good. Any dude who cheats on his girl, no matter what, is probably a dude to watch out for. I know that he's sweet and all, but if he can do it to "Shay", he can cheat on you too.
If he's available, then I would say it's a sign that he may be into you, but drunken kisses often mean "I would love to have sex with you" and not "I would love to have a relationship with you"... see what I mean?
I'd just be careful with this fella. Really see if he wants to be with you, or just hook up with you. Keep your standards high and don't settle for less than you deserve. Not to mention, Shay may be a crummy friend to you, but by dating her 2 year man, your friendship together could really be over.
You sound like a smart, sweet gal. Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): this guy is not good for u.he is making trap 4 u.
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