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anonymous
writes:This guy started talking to me and he eventually asked me out. I said yes because i liked him to but, i have plans for the weekend but Im free the next. He was like ok.But ever since that he dosent text me or call me. He talks to me when he sees me though. And he always smiles at me to. We both work at the same job. So we do see each other at least every two days or so. And he waits with me until my ride home arrives.But he dosent really call me or even at least txt. I txt him and he responds bt it'll be nice if he at least says hi or something. Do i sound desperate or something? I really like him and i want to talk to him...I know i should give him space cuz i dont want to scare him.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (3 November 2008):
I think he probably took you putting the date off to another weekend as a 'sign' you werent interested. Too often people tell someone they dont like they are 'busy' this weekend, but are avialable next weekend. Its supposed to be the 'nice/gentle' way to let smeone down you dont like. So he could easily be thinking thats what you did, even though its not what you meant.In my opinion, if you cancel a date, or cant make a date that the person asks you out for and you ask to make it another tme, then its your responsibility to follow it up and make sure it goes ahead. That way you show that you are still keen. So send him a message or next time you see him, ask if hes free this weekend and tell him you would like to go out and do what you planned to do the other weekend. As for him not texting much. Some people just arent like that. Some people are. I personally text alot. But some poeple just arent like that. Especially in the begiining of a r/ship when you havent been on an offical date yet. He may be playing it 'cool'. The fact that he shows positive signs when you see him face to face means you should keep trying I think. Goodluck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008): He could be the shy type. Maybe he took it that you weren't all that interested, but that's doubtful.
I'm not sure it's a good idea dating a work colleague, but it's worth actually talking to him rather than relying on text messages all the time. The advent of the mobile phone has certainly killed the art of face-to-face conversation and has replaced it as the primary means of communication! Whatever did we do without them?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (3 November 2008):
Hmm, he could just be one of these guys who doesn't text unless he needs to.
Since you haven't yet been on a date I would leave it for now. But once you are seeing each other properly and are boyfriend and girlfriend then you could just ask him why he never gets in touch.
Good Luck!! xx
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