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writes:A man I have been dating for a bit of time and I recently had sex for the first time. It was really great, in my opinion, and proved to me that it is indeed not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean. I didn't finish, but it felt awesome and I think my level of noisiness might have indicated that. ;-) However, I'm very inexperienced. Having only had one partner in the past, nearly three years ago, I was a little nervous of what exactly to do and how to act, which I'm sure is typical of every first time with someone new. We seemed to progress into a nice rhythm, though. We haven't spoken since that night. It's only been about a day. Pretty typical pause in communication for us, but I'm left wondering, "Did he like it too? Was I too noisy that he might assume I was faking?" So, I was curious if there are any hints, signs, or things that you guys do during sex and afterward that generally indicate that you really enjoyed yourself. Also, do guys often wonder if women are faking? Or are the fakes easy to sniff out? I'm also wondering if I should initiate the first communication after the deed or if I should allow him. What would a guy prefer? (Of course I know this is very subjective, but I'd love a little direction! I want this to work!!!) Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 October 2010):
 Guys in general are pretty easy to please. Now, if you want specifics, there is only one person who can give those to you.
I would suggest that you should ask him for direction. Let him know that you're feeling self conscious about your inexperience and what his help to guide you. He'll likely love this. Like I said, we're easy to please.
Also, don't fake it. We can't always tell, but it's best if you just tell us to try something different. If we don't know it isn't working, we'll just keep going. It is better for you to guide us to your pleasure too.
The best lovers are those who openly communicate their desires to their partners. If you each come into sex with this mindset be prepared for an awesome sexual relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): Frm what i know about men, they can tell if ur inexperienced and they like that, the closer u are to a virgin the better. And yes they can tell if ur enjoying it or not. So it dont matter if u moan 4 real or fake, they just want to know that they r doing there job right, by this they usually judge by ur bodily fluid... If the girl doesnt seem to get off most guys would never have sex w her again. If u thnk he only sorta got that thn call him and see if he wants to do it again,
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reader, Quinell  +, writes (18 October 2010):
Congratulations frist of all for not being a crazy sex driven young lady. Wow three years since your last, well done. I started off like you with my partner I wondered the same things. Now I have realized that he enjoys it every time he releases sperm. Some clues of enjoyment for men are fast, hard movements. If he started off slow to carter for your needs and then exaggerated he enjoyed it because the pleasure excited him. Sounds like ohoa give it away as well. Their toes can tell a story too, If the toes do a curling motion they are definitely enjoying they can even get mid cramps in their feet, women too and have a jerking sensation after one has cum.
He probably can't wait to see you again and wondering the same thing, did I do things right. He probably is boasting on about it with his mates....
It could only get better with more safe practice.
Have a chat next time after having sex. Some feed back like your best positions or movement, things you'll like to try, best pace. Base all discussion on the sex you just performed make it positive. Then introduce suggestions later for next time.
If you feel you are lacking in skills watch a bit of porn by yourself and experience something knew each time having sex with him. Just until you find your most desirable positions.
Don't be scared to take control sometimes.
And don't forget your Vagina exercise after a few times. To tighten the mussels keep it feeling good. It is kind of like a clinching motion. You will definitely feel that you are doing them right when you can't wait to see him again.
Good luck,
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