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writes:Right well this isnt really a life or death situation but any feedback,as always,greatly appreciated...Im with my boyfriend a year the nd of april.However, weve been childhood sweethearts,so we know the ins and outs of each other. The only problem we have is going out on the town.He would be the jealous type in the relationship, not an insane amount, but im not really the jealous type. Anyway, when we go out we always end up fighting.Honestly, at the start of our relationship i was a bit wild, i would chat to completey random blokes, which,naturaly, would piss the boyfriend off.However, now i wouldnt even think of doing that. I love him to pieces and he knows hes the only one for me.But last night, i was on the dance floor with all my friends. He said he seen me grinding up against some bloke,which i didnt and i know i didnt. The dance floor was packed,he was looking from a certain angle. Anyway, the morale of the story is that similar things like this happen regularly and always results in one of us leaving, with the other trailing after. It is always sorted the next morning. It means however, that we have to leave our friends on a night out as a result of this, which is beyond the joke.I understand he gets jealous but this is multiplied when hes drunk.I cant stand it any longer. I know its a petty problem, but its one that eats away as time goes on. Is there a solution to this problem? Im aware its going to take two efforts, one from me and one from him..Im sorry about the length of this! Just have alot going on upstairs at the mo'!xxxx
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reader, lezlie +, writes (25 January 2009):
lezlie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah,your right. Thank you so much for your answer. really helpful! Just shows jealousy doesnt sprout from nowhere. il try your advice, thanks again!xx
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reader, didda123  +, writes (25 January 2009):
 I think the problem here is that first impressions count unfortunately! You have admitted that you were a bit wild when you first met and this is the opinion he has of you.I am sure over time he has realized that you are not quite the girl that you first portrayed when you first met but it is hard for us to forget those first images.The solution to your problem would be to help him with his insecurities and the jealousy he is feeling you will need to be very attentive to him when you are alone but particularly when you are out don't give him any cause for his concerns in the immediate future, actions speak louder than words and if you are showing your love for him more i am sure this will alay his worries and he will begin to become alot more secure around you.Good luck i'm sure this will help x
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