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writes:I am going out with this girl who I like a lot. However I seem to get jealous a lot when she talks about guys she goes to school with or when it seems like she is flriting. Like the other day my friend was texting her and I got mad cuz i thought they were flirting. And the other day also when my friend gave her a piggyback ride and when she got into a snowball fight with my cousin i got so jealous and I am always afraid she is going to leave me for another guy. I dont wanna be like this but what do I do to help not feel this way? PLEASE HELP!!!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (7 March 2009):
 Hey, don't let this get out of control. You're young and you can curb this side of you now. Listen, if she's trustworthy, trust her. If she breaks that trust it's not because you did something wrong or weren't attentive enough or whatever, it's because she not someone worth trusting!!
The more you try to be controlling and jealous, the further away you push her. You need to learn to grit your teeth and just chill out a bit. She's allowed to have fun with other people than you and if you let her, she'll feel more comfortable around you. Don't push her to the point where she feels like she has to keep secrets from you, that's when trouble starts.
Remind yourself when you feel jealous that you trust her and you know that you're the one she cares about.
Good luck!
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reader, Helpful_In_Ohio +, writes (7 March 2009):
 that's a sign of a controlling person Squash that before you get out of hand. Trust her and what she is doing till she gives you a reason not to and then ask questions do not accuse or demand answers just ask.
You need to just relax and go for the ride of life you worry to much man its all about liking or even loving the relationship your in and being jealous its not gonna happen.
just go with the flow man she seems good enough for you to date so at some point you trusted her so keep trusting her. Its called a RELATIONSHIP.. Be a good man and stick with it without jumping to conclusions.
I was like that once and now i have learned that its to hard on my heart and mind to worry all the time so i stopped and made my life a lot more enjoyable.
Hope this helps
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