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*ngel amy
writes:HeyIm so confused about what to doI go to this place on holiday, and for three years i've fancied this lad that lives there like mad. Two years ago, i started talking to him and got his number. During that two years so much has happened, he told me he liked me so i was chuffed, then he changed his mind, and i was so upset cause it never worked out. I go to the place he lives about 6 or 7 times a year and it takes about 3 hours to get there. I went there in febuary, and he werent bothered with me cause he had just split from a girlfriend so i was a bit upset, but i was kinda used to it by now. But i went down there in april and things were amazing. He made sure he saw me everyday, and spent so much time with me. I stayed round his house on night, we kissed and stuff and he told me he loved me. Im back home now, and im hurting like hell cause i miss him, ive been home a week, and he is texting me reall nice things. And he has said that if i lived down there, he would go out with me, which is the thing i want the most. Im absaloutly in love with him and i cant' forget him, ive tried to forget him for three years but i cant do it. Should i forget him though? Cause wen im with him, ive never felt so much love in my life, i don't know what to do. Also, do you think he actually lkes me as much as he is saying? Please help! Thanks. x
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reader, angel amy +, writes (26 April 2010):
angel amy is verified as being by the original poster of the question Aww thankyou for your answer, it's helped alot :) x
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reader, Boombadaboom  +, writes (25 April 2010):
 At your age, "never having felt so much love in your life" is probably a simple thing to say because you haven't had enough experience with it. If you let him go, there will be thousands of other possible guys for you to choose from, millions. You've been in luck that you both happened to fall in love with each other but I'm seriously thinking that this may just be a too big of feeling at a too young age. If you continue this, you'll set the bar for all your next boyfriends so high that it may become a lot more difficult to find a right guy later in your life. Missing someone is normal, I've been there. We've all done it and a lot of us have hurted just like you and hell missing someone. It's normal and all that you're feeling is normal but you should be careful because this is setting up things for your future relationships so if you wanna be with him then be with him but the grind of you not seeing him for months and text messaging relationships... it's way too early for you. You're better off living life happily and exploring your thoughts and dreams and wishes, basically have fun all around, just because that's all you need right now. You don't "need" love now, I bet it feels right and when you're a few years older, like 17 or something, you can easily get in touch with your emotions better and think more like a grown up, think smarter and wiser.(That is if you're lucky to be raised good enough) So just forget about him. I don't say cut him out of your life but just befriend him. Friendship is always great and if in a few years you're still good friends then it's proven that good love is possible too. At the very least you'll get to know him incredibly well over the time and you'll be able to make a better decision in the future. but just be patient, like really patient, until-it-completely-feels-100%-right kind of patient :D I know love is hard but don't make it too hard on yourself otherwise you'll miss out on a lot of things and trust me, you don't want to miss out on a lot of things when you're that young. If he's as young as you then he's probably not absolutely sure either. He must just enjoy the feeling just like you do but it's a big risk saying that you're meant to be with each other. Love will come knock on your doorstep many years from now so don't be willing to grow up too soon or too quickly because all you have to do now at your age is have fun and enjoy life as much as possible. That's the best way to grow up and you'll become an adult anyway so enjoy life as much you can now and just keep the important stuff for later when you'll like it the most. You WILL be feeling a lot better about it in years to come, you just have to be slow about it and like I said: befriend him only. It'll feel just as good and it'll be a lot safer for you in every way and if love grows long from now, then so be it. At least you'll know it has been worth it in the future because now, you have not a slight idea what's gunna happen and yes, you're too young. You might get sick of hearing that but it's the truth so make the world your playground and build yourself into an amazing woman. You'll never have time enough so use the time that you do have the best and most fruitful you can.Just my opinion. I could say a million things but I feel my message is going to be too long if I keep typing :P Good luck! xx
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