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writes:Dear aunts and uncles. I hope all of you are having a great and relaxing summer with your loved ones! First of all I just want to warn you guys that I am a horrible writer, so forgive me if the explanation of the situation is difficult to understand :).Now to the predicament; At the beginning of last years summer break a close female classmate of mine (let's call her "R") invited me to hangout with 3 of her friends. We had a very good time and there was this one girl who I became very interested in (let's call her "X"). When the day ended and I got home, I decided to add X on facebook, which she accepted, but unfortunately I was too big of a wuss to write to her.July, 1 month later, "R" invited me out to hangout again, but this time it was only "R" and "X"(who I was still quite interested in). We hung out for a couple of hours and had a great time.This time when I got home I decided to write to "X".After the normal "Hi's" and "What's up's" the conversation started to die out, so since I've had horrible past experiences with women never having a mutual interest, I decided to write something along the lines of "Alright, but I have to go now. Here's my number *insert number*, keep in touch and take care :)" (I know, I know. I should not have given my number, but taken hers instead. No excuses). Unfortunately her answer was "Haha bye :)" and she never texted me so I figured she was not interested.2 weeks ago a mutual friend (of both me, "X", "R") held a birthday party where all of us were invited. Keep in mind it has been almost a year since the last time I saw "X". Me and "X" greeted, took a couple of pictures, exchanged small talks and it was a fun time.2 days ago I invited "R" to hangout and go to some fast food restaurant to eat. To my surprise "X" was there. It felt a bit awkward at first, but I tried my best to keep the conversation as "harmonious" as possible.We had great conversations but I couldn't help but catch up on some things "X" had said. For example: "R" said something about both of them and a couple of other friend going to an amusement park and asked if I wanted to join them. I kindly said no thank you cause, honestly, I'm not too big of a fan of amusement parks. It could have just been an act of kindness from "X's" part, but she said "Why not? Please come?" and it sounded very sincere..Anyways. My question to you beautiful people who actually stayed to read this long and horrible story; What do you think I should do? Should I tag along when/if the invitation to that amusement park comes? Should I somehow write to "X" on facebook again? Should I just forget about all of this?A huge thank you in advance! :DPS: Sorry for any typos or grammar errors. As a foreigner my English really isn't the best :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2013): Hi! i think you should go to the theme park and observe her behaviour subtlety- look at her body language I.e if she looks at you a lot, stays close to you. Google "non verbal signs someone likes you", theres loads of stuff. Even if she's shy or whatever, she will prob give something away. Obv if you REALLY don't want to go to the theme park then just message her- why not? Can put your mind at rest at least! :) Btw if it turns out she's not showing interest by responding to you, don't be disheartened- she clearly likes you and finds you a lot of fun as a friend- I love social gatherings, the bigger the better- I often say to guys of the opposite sex I have no attraction to "please come? Haha- Cos I love their company! :) she maybe even feels she's not interesting enough to hang out with you, and a bit intimidated. Maybe... Anyway do the above ! Good luck :) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2013): I was very interested in reading this question.
You are very young, and grew up in this age of technology. I am a bit older and still remember times without cell phones when we actually had to make a date to meet and have a conversation.
To attract her attention you need to stand out. You never actually invited her out. Hanging out together with friend's, FB, giving your phone number will never work, if there is no dates. Amusement park doesn't count also. Take her out, she ll go, you ll see.
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