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writes:I've lived with the mother of my child since the baby was born. We broke up at the beginning of the pregnancy. When the baby was born, I moved to a different state to support her and provide for her and the child until I had enough money saved to move us back near my family. I never spent more than a day or two apart from her and the baby in this entire time. She then visited a different state for a week to see her family. While she was gone, I suddenly realized what an enormous impression she had on my life, and how happy I was that she shared it with me, even in the non-romantic way that we had been. I further realized that I had been nurturing these feelings for a long time, and wanted to begin life as a true family with her and my child.She got back from her trip and was strangely distant. After spending a week working up my courage, I confessed my love to her through a several page long letter I wrote one night. She informed me that she was in a long-distance relationship that she began shortly after her visit. The person she is dating is someone she's known peripherally for several years, but I don't believe they've ever spent more than a few hours together at a time, if that.I can't imagine how much poorer my life will be if I don't succeed in winning back the heart of this woman. Any advice on the matter would be helpful. Oh, and as a caveat; I moronically rejected several offers to rekindle things during the time we've lived together. I need to be able to tell if she just doesn't trust that I mean it this time, or if she truly has no feelings for me. How can I prove that I've changed?
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reader, kaimorid +, writes (21 February 2008):
kaimorid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe've talked, a bit...but when she wants to ignore a person or an issue, she's really good at it. I guess I'm hoping for help about what actions I can take that will prove that I want her forever...I'm a firm believer in the concept that actions speak louder than words. Thank you for the comment, though.
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