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writes:Hi I'm a guy and I need some advice on dating. I think I'm ok looks wise but I ask because I've only had one gf and I think she only went out with me as a rebound from her boyfriend. So, I don't know if what I did was good for askking girls out.Anyone help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): HI im a lass n have the same problem i was the rebound lass, n besides i like sum 1 now n im gonna go for it this thurs wen i see him like n ask him out n so if ya have a special sum 1 who u like just go for it wat have ya got to loose n that lass u like is probs hoping ya gonn ask her out anyways. All u gotta do is basically smile n be ur self n do sum flirting with her like touch her arm n see how she reacts n hopefully everthing goes well for ya :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2006): Being in your position recently, after breaking up with a long-term girlfriend who was my first and not knowing where to go from there I would offer the following advice.
Go to the local place where everyone hangs out and try and get yourself back into a group of single guys. You will find you know a lot more people than you think. Doing this will take a bit of pressure off of you mentally.
When you start to go out to night clubs go with the mentality that you are totally average looking. Not better or worse looking than anyone else and so you are in with just as much of a chance with every girl in the place as the other guys. Play the numbers game. The more women you talk to, the more chance you have of pulling. Try and talk to women in quieter areas of clubs ie the bar, and as most people will say - just be yourself. The hardest part will be plucking up the courage to go over to girls and trying to start a random conversation but remember the saying - he who hestitates masterbates. If your rejected 40 times in a night and pull 1 girl you've won! Intially focus on them, asking them questions about themselves. 9 times out of 10 the ones who are interested in you will ask you lots of questions back, those who are not will tend to stay quite quiet and so you will feel awkward and end the convesation naturally. Try to use this idea as a guide. If you are worried about rejection you are basically saying to yourself that you think everyone fancies you which isn't true.
This is what i've learned being in your shoes recently. I don't know if its the best advice but its working for me at the moment.
Hope it all works out.
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reader, CRS698 +, writes (4 September 2006):
 Hi there, The best advice is to be yourself. You must be considerate and caring as you are asking the question here. Many women (if not all) would love to be with someone who has that in their personality, so you'll be fine. Don't worry about how many, the most important thing is to find someone who is right for YOU.If you find someone who seems right, just go for it regardless of the fear of being rejected.I hope it works out for you.
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