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writes:Hey, my online date im yet to meet has just told me his mum died last week . We have been talking a while but im going on holiday so we cant meet just yet . apart from the usual that would be said how else should i handle the situation i dont intend on bringing the subject up but im just thinking if he does what other things i could say . ive not had someone close to be die so i dont know what to say apart from ' sorry to hear that ' etc which ive already said .thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2017): im the op. we have been chatting for about a month . im very careful as ive heard of loads of things going wrong for people , he has given me his facebook details which ive not given mine and hes given me his email and phone number again i still havent given mine . i dont fall so easy for the lines often given and i certainly would never give money im not in a position to do so anyway but even if i was id never do it . Thanks for your input you guys
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2017): How long have you been communicating with this person online? Keep an eye out for red flags here.
Most likely he is normal and is telling the truth, but keep in mind there are a lot of scammers out there that start by telling you these very personal things very early on (especially when it gets close to a time to meet as an excuse not to see you in person), and then starting to ask you for money or gifts, or "help" like that.
Don't let yourself get too attached to an online personality, meet the real person face to face first before you decide whether or not to have a real relationship.
Otherwise, I think you said all that is needed with the condolences you already gave him about his mom's passing.
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reader, MissKin +, writes (27 June 2017):
 There's nothing you can say. You just say you're there to listen if he wants to talk and you want to be there for him however you can. The reality is nothing you can do can change anything or help really. So don't beat yourself up. He needs to grieve and eventually heal. Grief does things to people so be understanding where you can. Acknowledge that he might need space. All you can do is ask if there's anything you can do for him and accept whatever the answer is as best as you can.
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