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writes:This may sound shocking but I never liked sex I been well wit my bf for three years now and he is my first and we done it plenty of times but now it just feels lik eh I never orgasm nothing I think there is some thing wrong wit me or him Idk ?hmmm Idk if that's Wierd because. Every one I know loves it It just doesn't feel good I hate it
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice and I am faithful to him he's my first I want to last with him but when i'm older I wanna be able to enjoy sex and have kids not the way I hate it and get pregnant if that makes sense . And we have tried many many different positions hmmm I think about it some times maybe he isn't the right guy for me we been through a lot hmmm but thanks:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): "I never orgasm nothing I think there is some thing wrong wit me or him"First, there is nothing wrong with either of you.Normal people with normal reactions to life and life issues.Secondly, both of you need to work on the sex issue together if you will ever have an orgasm with him, or anyone else. It takes understanding. You may, if you work on this, figure out what the issues are, and find that your relationship flourishes afterward.From a personal standpoint, I went through this with a spouse, who was unable to orgasm for most of our relationship, and unable to orgasm at all with me involved after she became orgasmic on her own a number of years into the marriage. She even had an affair due to dissatisfaction and not understanding her own side of this (don't do this, big mistake).When we went to counseling, rather than divorce because of what became essentially no sex life at all, she was able to open up eventually about trust issues and past traumas and sexual assaults (before she met me), as well as the affair.Within a week she became orgasmic with me when she found I wasn't going to leave her when she admitted to the past history she had. This was after well over 10 years of marriage. She had been sexually active for over 30 years, and never had an orgasm with a partner in that entire time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): If you hate it he is probably not the right guy for you. Try different positions maybe, everyone climaxes at different stages in sex, maybe he just isn't getting right to the spot. If he feels right just not the sex try working through it you should find some way. Or maybe sex just isn't for you, this sounds stupid to most people but some people just don't like it.
Good Luck Anyway. Xx
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