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writes:I need help, Im, 25 and Ive never had an orgasm , Ive only been in 2 serious relationships but ive been with about 8 guys so I dont know what the problem is?
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reader, Temari  +, writes (21 January 2009):
I was just actually reading something yesterday about how to train to have an orgasm if you haven't had one, found the link in my history http://www.sextoyspy.com/ShowSexMasterArticle.aspx?ID=40 good luck!
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reader, Vela  +, writes (5 August 2008):
You need To relax, That is the main thing.You can also Ask a guy your with to stimulate you vagina oraly. And also you have many things online about woman's orgasam, kamasutra can be helpfull.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): I am a 19 year old female and i have had sex with 4 people and i have never had an orgasm. I have been with my partner for 3 months now and i still havent? i am starting to get frustered and he trys so hard to make me come but nothing happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): Me either. I used to masturbate, but after about ten seconds my body just gets bored of it and it doesn't feel that great, and sex is sooo boring to me i just try and make my boyfriend finish as quickly as possible. I had an orgasm ONCE and I wasn't doing anything differently, and it really annoyed me because it was the first time sex hadn't been boring now I knew what an orgasm was like. Haha, I sound prudish, but I love the IDEA of sex. I just wish I loved doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): I am one of those wome myself who can't have a orgasm with just vaginal penetration. My husband doesn't know that:-). (Not really funny. I am 31 years old and I have had only ONE orgasm with vaginal penetration. Years ago before I have married actually 6 years ago. I have not yet found out what my ex did to get me to climax. But anyway I got tired of feeling like I was having the fun I deserved and happen to go to the toy store with a friend I mines. she brought a vibrator for herself to use with her boyfriend. I was amazed with all the things that were there to help out. I then asked my husband to go with me, he refused. So........... I went with my friend again a purchased the BULLET yes readers it deserves alll capital letters. Worth more that what you pay for it. It is undescrible. :-) :-) I am sooooooo very pleased. I alos purchased some LIQUID V clitorial stimulant to help me along the way and I have to admitt it is all worth it. By the way being my husband would attend with me. He doesn't even know! It doesn't really matter to me that he doesn't one thing for sure I know and you know now too. So race yourself down to your xxx store and purchase those two items I mention. And you be just as happy as I am.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (25 June 2007):
How about a crash- course in Sex 101. It should be of help with your problem. First off you belong to the "One Out Of Two Club" Women who cannot have an orgasm by Penile-Vaginal-Intercourse.And Here is why. With vaginal stroking by a man's penis,your clitoris is't getting directly stimulated, But only indirectly stimulated. Those other two women can have their orgasm by this indirect clitoral stimulation, But in your Club It will take direct clitoral stimulation to have your orgasms. You could use your fingers And give your man a helping hand. If your fingers are directly stimulating your clitoris while he is engaged in intercourse. You should have no problem in having great orgasms. Me, I always first engage in oral-sex, as a stiff, wet,warm,tongue won't let either of us down.Then can make sure that my upper penis,my tongue, is applying the needed ,direct stimulation to the clitoris. So even if my Joytoy, penis, doesn't work, We both win. And she has great orgasms. You on the other hand are not having orgasms, because you clitoris isn't being directly stimulated by the penis when engaged in vaginal sex.
Do hope the this has been helpful to you.
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reader, fishfood +, writes (25 June 2007):
 Most women find it difficult to orgasm so ur not alone!! But soulsista is completely right - u need to find out for urself what turns u on and then u can go from there. Every womans body responds differently to different types of stimulation and sex play as everyone has their own different and individual preferences so u need to find out what pleases u. It may take some time but practice makes perfect.
Once uve learnt what works for u, u can then show a partner and do it together. Most women can only orgasm through clitoral stimulation as I think its something like only one in three women can orgasm through penetration alone so maybe u could experiment with some toys. Good luck!! x
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (25 June 2007):
 I don't think you will ever have an orgasm with a guy if you have never had one alone. You're obviously one of us unlucky women who doesn't come easily so need to get to know their own body before someone else can pleasure you.
I wouldn't worry about having an orgasm, I know it is frustrating but many women never do during sex and some never do with a partner at all. But there's no reason you can't learn how to pleasure yourself and do that alongside what you're partner does to you or show them how to do it.
A lot of an orgasm for a woman is mental. If she is not happy about something or is scared or self conscious, she will not be able to come. We're not like men, where it's mostly physical and they can often come no matter what is going on around them! So make sure the mood is right and you're not putting too much pressure on it etc as this will only make it harder.
I advise that you spend some quality intimate time with yourself and find out what makes you come. Once you've learnt more about your body on your own then you and someone else can do it together.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2007): Hi,
This is not uncommon, what you need to do is to find what does it for you, you need to be able to understand how your body works and what makes you tick or no lover will be able to give you that infamous 'O'. I was a virgin until i was 25 and when i lost my virginity i invested in a rampant rabbit, you can order online safe and secure with anne summers and its packaged really discrete so you dont have the worry of openly shopping for it. I think once you explore a little and find what works for you you will have the time of you life. I find i cant have an orgasm with intercourse alone we have a special toy called a bullet, and while we make love/ have sex i use that and its almost instant.
Good luck and remember learn to understand your body and then show your man!
Veasse xx
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