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writes:I have a boyfriend and I love him dearly.. ONLY ONE PROBLEM!! I swore to myself that I would never date. I have my own reasons but I don't condone the idea of dating. but still I fell in love and now I am here. he is my first boyfriend ever and we've been together for a year and a few weeks. but the point is I love him but he's few years older than me and he doesn't go to college and I go to high school. I want him to be the one but I feel that I am wasting my life with him. I want to stay with him but at the same time I feel that I losing way more than I am gaining! what should I do? I am really confused. adolescent in need of help!!
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reader, floraltemptaions  +, writes (25 June 2007):
Live for today, enjoy the moment and the feeling... as tommorrow... you may never get the chance. It sounds to me like your living your life for the future, trying to plan the whole thing out instead of just enjoying the scenery along the way. Stay with the boyfriend, enjoy the feeling of love, and if someday you are unhappy with him, then deal with it.... but for now... just allow yourself to live!!! Your young... ENJOY IT!
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reader, mcbirdie  +, writes (25 June 2007):
 You...don't give enough information for us to help you, I don't think. Loving someone dearly and them being 'the one' aren't always the same thing. You can't wish it into existence. You haven't really said why you feel that you may be wasting your life with him--is it because he isn't in college? Or because you're young?
If you have doubts that you want to be with him, then you don't need to be with him. I get that you don't like the idea of dating, but there are other options than just dating or being with this guy. My take on it, from all of your questions without much information, is that you are pushing too hard for this relationship to be 'it'--maybe because you so dislike the idea of dating? For whatever reason, I would calm way down about it. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
Stay with your boyfriend while you enjoy it and end the relationship when you don't. You are very young and have a whole lot of living to get through.
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