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41-50,
*treyue
writes:Dear Cupid,I have been friends with this guy for about 5 months now. Ever since the first night we hung out we have been basically inseparable. We never did anything sexual, we never even kissed. I'm in love with him! But I don't think he would ever feel the same way. He tells me he loves me like family. Sometimes I catch him just staring at me, when he thinks I'm not looking. I moved away about a Monty and a half ago and he just stopped texting me. He will answer when I text him, but that's it. About 3 weeks ago he got arrested for something he did . I made it down there for his court date, and bailed him out. When I had to leave he seemed sad, but he text me for 2 days then burying. Then he got put back in jail, so I web down and tried to get him out, and they wouldn't release him. So I went and visited him in jail. Both times we just were both so sad. Then I had to go back home. I wrote him a letter explaining to him how I felt, and he never brought that letter up. when I talk to him on the phone he always tells me he loves me like 4 or 5 times. But I know it's not how I wish it was. I wrote him a second letter explaining that I am just going to get back With my sons father, because I know I will never love anyone as much as I love him. But my sons father doesn't even care that my heart belongs to someone else.because he is in love with me. So my friend in jail was suppose to call me last night, and didn't. I think he got my letter. J just don't know what to do. I have lived my whole life trying to make everyone else happy. I just want it to be my turn. So j guess my question would be. Should I continue to try, to see if anything could happen, between us? Or should I just let it go? I have never felt this way before. I could use a little guidance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): This seems really complex, and no wonder your stressed, but honestly, the best thing you can do is let go of them both. your sons father can't be right for you, or you wouldn't have ended it in the first place (although if it was for the prospects of the other guy, you have a lot of thinking to do!) and the other guy clearly would have told you seriously about how he felt. Although I hate to be the one to put things into a different perspective, think about how he is feeling in jail as well. It's a lonely place, and expressing love, although as true as it may be, is very influenced by how segregated he must feel at the moment. If you want to think of yourself, sacrifice things to do so. Don't live for men, let them live for you darling.
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reader, Jin31  +, writes (29 September 2010):
 A serious question to ask yourself love, what will this man in jail do for you that could make you happy? Why are you back with your son's father? What does your future hold with having negative role models in your son's life? Have a think? xxx
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