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anonymous
writes:Any advice would be gratefully received....I'm a woman in my mid thirties with three children and a lovely man in my life. Recently a new guy started work where I do. The attraction was almost instant and as the weeks have gone by the flirting is becoming very intense. He has made most of the running and has made it very clear that he wants a full blown relationship with me. To add to the mix he is 13 years younger than me - something I keep pointing out but his response is that you can't help who you fall for and it makes no difference. I met up with him the other day to tell him that I couldn't take this any further - he kissed me and to be honest I put up little resistance. Nothing more happened but I'm not sure I could stop it if it did.My partner has picked up that my mood has changed and I've told him I'm feeling very unsettled. What on earth is going on in my head - I've never cheated on anyone ever and don't understand why these feelings are so strong....help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): We will all come across people in our lives who we will be very attracted to. What we do with that attraction is the important question - do we do nothing and leave it alone or do we make something of it. In your case I'd leave it alone. Its a path you don't need to tread.
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (28 July 2007):
This guy is a lot younger than you and I no doubt that you feel very flattered that he finds you so very attractive and is persuing you.You said yourself that you have three children and a very nice husband that you are very happy with. You haven't been out there looking for anything else so there doesn't sound as if there is anything wrong with your marriage whatsoever. Now the dialemma.Is it worth risking all of this for the new lad? - Maybe things would be better for you if you left and you landed with this guy in the perfect relationship for happy ever after. The problem is that you have to loose your husband and risk loosing the love and respect of your children in the process. That is indeed a very expensive price to pay. I would have certainly thought that it was way too expensive for you or many people out there that are presently in your predicament.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007): Your feelings are so strong because this young man is pursuing you hot and heavy and the attention is pretty heady, especially at your age when you may be going through a bit of a mid life crisis wondering if you still have it sexually speaking or as a man magnet....if you care for your current partner, stop seeing this man and putting yourself in a position to be tempted as this will be the end of your current relationship.
If this guy is a coworker and his advances are unwelcome, you need to tell him to stop or you will speak to your Human Resources department about harassment....that is unless you like being harassesed by him at work...
Really, only you can decide, but I would turn towards your partner instead of turning away....work things out in that relationship first before jumping ship into the unknown with a new much younger man.....I like younger men myself so I understand the temptation, but sometimes these young bucks are just big flirts and are looking for a sexual conquest, even though he may pretend otherwise....I would be very cautious here at work if I were you.
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