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writes:I’m scared and I don’t know why! I’ve never been in a relationship before so I don’t know what it feels like. Ever since my best friend’s cousin R started hanging out with me I been questioning a lot of things. I know that I like him and I’ve even told him how I felt about him after a year of friendship and he seems fine with it. He didn’t give me the reaction I thought, I was too afraid to tell him in person so I text told him how I felt. He still acts normal with me and if I touch him he smiles big. I talked about football today because it’s a subject he likes and we got along great. He always smiles and laughs when I talk about a subject that he likes. Today I have a weird feeling it’s not happy or sad but confused. I’m afraid that we will never hangout and that he doesn’t want to hangout with me. It hurts me that I don’t know how he feels about me because he has tons of friends who are girls. If I tried to ask him what he thought about me he would probably ignore the fact that I asked that question. When I text him he only answers what he wants. I could pour my heart out telling him how I feel and he wouldn’t respond. I don’t know if he is too embarrassed to say that he feels the same but he certainly doesn’t feel awkward or never wants to talk to me since I told him that I liked him. How can I stop myself from wanting him so badly? I want us to be together somewhat. Sometimes when I talk to him I feel like I said something stupid or regret if I said something. Why did I say that to him? I’m so stupid kind of thing. His brother already enjoys hanging out with me and he says that I’m funny. He wants to hangout with me more. It bugs me when I talk to R and he ignores certain things that I say about my feelings for him or if I’m having a tough time with something he won’t say anything. I can’t help it if I like someone who is a little selfish sometimes because I look past that and only see the good in people. What do you think that I should do?
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reader, tamashck  +, writes (26 November 2009):
 Yeah i understand how difficult it will be, but you have to find a moment and just take the plunge. Either way youll feel so much better afterwards, especially in the long term.
And like i said before, good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers and replys! I don't know if I will ever have the right moment to tell him face to face but I will try to tell him.
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reader, Marky.T +, writes (26 November 2009):
well what can i say from what i read it looks like your love drunk. right first off lets clear out some of your worrys and fears. ok your pritty hung up on this guy, when us as mortals feel attracted to some one we tend to get a bit well off balance we sometimes trip up cough or fart and most of the time get toung tied when around them do not feel bad we all do it even the best of us its natural all you have to do is try forgeting that you want to make this guy your boyfreind and concentrate on acting as mates this should make you feel more relaxed around him.
now you say he ignores you when you talk about your feeling or are haveing a tought time. ok you can see this in to ways maby he is not interted in you or maby from what it sounds like he could just be one of thoes guy who dont talk about there feeling or are just emotional closed up dont worry about that to much if hes smileing at you he is probaly intrested but isnt sure about it and is to scared to talk about it my sergestion to deal with this is try and meet up together some how go to a movie or what ever you guys do in the states ( line dancing , ho downs ect lol )but try and take him out of his comfort zone a little and try and make you the reason that he is relaxed again.
right you said you told him how you felt by txt ok im some ways that's fine ( and i do cringe a little when i say that)
when you texted him you had no way of knowing his reaction to it through his body language tone of voice i sergest tell him again alone and face to face guys and guys like confidence in girls make sure he understands whats going on and use body language make sure you dont look at your toes or get distracted and laught and smile at every thing he says and if you feel conftable with the situation try makeing contact but dont rush things or look to eager you will just make him feel uncomftable.
you get on with his brother well this is fine but if his brother is younger it will make you look like a little kid and if hes older it will make it seem like hes not need it just one of those sibling rivalrys and some time it anouys people in relationship that there otherhalfs seem more close with there siblings than them. just make sure that when you hang out with both of them at the same time make sure he is one with the main focuse and not the brother.
now then thats all i can think of at the moment i hope i have helped in some way or anouther please drop me a email and give me some feed back seeing as this is the first reply that i have done or ask me if you have anotehr question
:) good luck (:
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reader, tamashck +, writes (25 November 2009):
Hey i sort of know what youre going through. To be honest, it sounds like you could do better than someone who doesnt have time for you.
But if you really feel this way about this guy, I think the only thing you can do is move forward, ie. pluck up the courage to tell him how you feel in person. A text message has no emotion or true meaning, you need to look into his eyes and tell him.
I know this may seem daunting, especially if youre shy and have never been in a relationship, but this may be the only way to get a response out of him. The feelings youre experiencing wont go away by themselves - by talking it out with him youll open doors, and either way itll bring some form of disclosure over the whole thing.
Good luck!! Let us know how it goes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): Its hard to answer because I know your feeling are so strong and they may be clouding your judgement, its true when they say "you should never meet your heroes". You have built a massive pedestal for this guy, and I have a very strong feeling that should anything ever happen between ye you will find yourself disappointed because you have built up a perfect image of him in your head. Why not flirt with other guys? You've told him how you feel, so perhaps its time to move on? If its meant to be, it will happen. Good luck sweetie x
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