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writes: I've been in love with this girl for three years and she's had feelings for me for five years. a couple of weeks ago I told her how i felt. But she said I was to late, I'd waited to long. now she's going out with this other guy. when I see them together it takes all I have to keep from crying. it just makes me so angry that I was so stupid to wait for so long. I don't know what to do would someone please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): Hey mate
id tell you first to just chill out. This is what happand to me no joke. Except i was the girl that moved on after liking the same guy for 6 years, he never acted intrested in me but he finally confessed to me after i started going out with this other fella. I was preaty upset, but you have to understand from her point of veiw she probley felt like you didnt like her in that way. I know i got sick of that feeling. But trust me when you care bowt someone for that long that feeling never goes away. I still care bowt this other guy, and im preaty sure that your girl is the same. DOnt give up, just keep holding on if its meant to be itl work out if it dosent then there is someone better out there. Take care and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2007): First, I'd relax. The good news is that she likes you. The bad news is that you're going to have to wait a while before you can date her -- how long remains to be seen, but it's unlikely that this is the guy she's going to marry. This is a good time for you to develop some patience, and her as well.
It is very important that you not try to get in the way of her relationship with the other guy. That relationship needs to live and die on its own. There are things for her to learn from this relationship that will help her make better choices should you get a turn later.
Mostly, try to not take this too terribly seriously. Ask some other girls out for nice casual dates -- dating can be about making friends and getting to know others better, not just romance and sex. Dinner, movies, skating, concerts, dancing, etc. can be fun, and you can find places that you like that you can bring this other girl sometime should things work out for you.
Have patience with your feelings -- you'll find you're feeling better when you focus your attention on what you can do right now than when you focus on how badly you feel.
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