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writes:i ask this girl out back in january but she said no. She knows I fancy her and she was always really nice to me. However last week I found out that she got drunk and slept with another guy. As you would expect I was devastated. But now I've started to hate not only her but my mum and sister as I've seem to have lost trust in women as they have done nothing to me except breaking my heart and making me miserable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy ex broke up with me because she was getting back together with her bf so she used me as a rebound. One of my best friends who is a girl used me when she was drunk. A few work colleagues who were women (not one man)said I was useless and to top it off, my mum said I was the reason why my parents were at the most miserable and poorest. So sorry if I'm sounding negative but I generally haven't had the best life when it come to females.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2006): this may sound bad but u sound like my current boyfriend of over 4 years. we met on my 18 birthday and we were interested in eachother but i didnt settle down with him then. even though he asked many times and i declined. i just wasnt ready to be tied down. i wanted to be young and have fun. and honestly i didnt want to have fun with him like that. i made mistakes and yah he was mad at me for having sex with someone else, but i spoke with him about it and told him that if i settled down with him when he wanted then things may not have worked out between us. could this be the case for u? sounds very simular. he still wanted to be with me, he waited because he understood how i felt, and said that i was worth waiting for.
on the other hand, u are not dating this girl and she did say no. so really she didnt do anything wrong. she made a choice and choice that she is going to have to live with. but please dont hate women. i did wrong, but my morals and values are great and i love my man to death and i treat him great. not all women are messed up, easy, and out to hurt men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2006): You just have to get on with life and another women will come! And you sould trust your mum and sister because they are the only women in your life that you can trust! There will be someone out there for you! I was in the same boat as you but i have met someone who i faniced for ages and he fancied me! We were not looking for anyone! You will find someone when you least expect it! Good Luck
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (9 October 2006):
 Everyone has some knock backs sometime in their life - few people manage to escape heartache at some stage. The fact is that you cannot change what other people may have done to you or you feel they have done to you. You have two choices in your life which are (a) hate all women based on your negative experiences of some and expect that everyone will treat you badly in the future (the vicious and lonely circle) or (b) accept that sometimes you have a rough time of it, some people are no good but that some are. You have to like yourself enough at the end of the day not to fall to pieces if a girl you like refuses a date or sleeps with another guy - that just means she wasn't mean't to be with you but there is someone out there who is. Most people experience something of the disappointment you are going through right now but meeting people who aren't right for you isn't a bad thing even though it feels that way at the moment - it means that when you meet a girl who is right for you and likes you back on an equal level then you will really appreciate each other.
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