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writes:Back in April I slept with this guy (he was my first and he wasn't my boyfriend it was just sex). I hate to sound b*tchy but I have to tell the truth... he was a bit of a minger. It grosses me out just thinking about him. No seriously. People would look at me and think "what's she doing with him?" And I regret sleeping with him.I'm quite ashamed of it and I don't know what I was thinking. So I wanted to end things between he and I and I told him that I had a boyfriend so we couldn't see eachother anymore. This was a lie but I didn't want to hurt his feelings by telling him that I didn't find him attractive. I did tell him we could still be friends though. But even though I've told him I have a boyfriend he still sends me texts asking me how I am. Which is really sweet but I'd rather he wouldn't. So I responded to his texts because it would be rude to ignore him and I'd hurt his feelings but now it's getting ridiculous.I never text him or call him or do anything to make him think I'm still interested (because obviously I want him to forget about him and I supposedly have a 'boyfriend' now) and I ignored one of his texts last week and thought he got the picture. But today he sent me another one asking me how I am. He still thinks we're friends and that maybe he has a chnace with me and I feel like such a b*tch for ignoring him and for saying that he's a minger just now, but what do I do? I don't want to hurt his feelings. Help!
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (9 October 2006):
 He isn't a minger...you might not think he is 'trophy boyfriend of the year' but some girl out there will. You say you cannot understand why he still contacts you but you have tied yourself up in so many white lies with this guy you don't have a clue what is going on...and neither does he. Perhaps he hasn't got the psychic vibes to work out you would rather he disappear from view...you can either buy him some tarot cards or be honest with him. Remember you told him you could be friends and you kinda like him sending you 'sweet' text messages don't you...everyone likes being fancied but honestly, you shouldn't treat the guy like something you scraped from your shoe. If you don't want any relationship with him - fine - just tell him to cease contact. This doesn't have to be a drama - it just happens that the more boyfriends you invent, the more it starts looking like a soap opera in which the centre of the stage happens to be you. Let the guy down gently and leave it at that.
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reader, CherryVanilli  +, writes (9 October 2006):
 Well u could tell him that he should stop texting u cos ur bf would get really angry if he knew or u could say that ur bf saw his texts & got really pissed off, tell him that if he cares 4 u then he should want u to be happy & that ur happy with ur current bf!!
So just ask him nicely & hope it works, if not then u should just ignore him & change ur number if u can, & 4get the whole thing u did, but PLS dont do such "stupid" thing again!
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