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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I seem to have lost the spark or the energy with dating. Is this what happens with adult life ? I have been single now for about 6 years and have pretty much missed out on all the 'fun' years of relationships. Now I have been out on a date here and there and spoke to a few girls but I do not seem to meet a girl that makes me think wow! shes the one for me . And as the years pass I seem friends fall in and out of relationships , getting married and having kids all the time I have been the same . Now dont get me wrong I am not out looking for women all the time I tend to have a date here and there have no spark and just give it a rest for a bit . But have 'missing out feeling ' and fear of getting older with nothing to look back on . is this just life ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2016): OP Here
THank you both for answering . I guess I feel I have missed out as I have not ventured about with many partners and from what I here your 20's are the best years to do that . But good to know you enjoyed your 30's so hopefully I can ... I guess I havent got anything to look back on which doesn't help .
And yeah I must admit I do not want to get married and have kids but I do want to find a meaningful relationship and am not a one night stand kind of chap... I must admit if I do not feel a spark right away I loose interest ... but at the same time I think I dont want to lead a girl on if I am not interested in them and so do not continue to date them .. I create my own minefield I guess . thanks again
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (6 October 2016):
Why do you think that you've missed out on the "fun years" of dating?
I had MUCH more fun dating in my 30s than in my 20s - I was more confident and more solvent. And the dates were often more interesting and exciting.
I'm in my 40's now and still single although I'm not dating at the moment because I too loose interest in the whole dating malarky for a while. And although I do feel down sometimes about it at times I certainly don't feel that I've got nothing to look back on - I've got heaps to look back on and my life is still pretty full.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 October 2016):
 It is not just life. Life is what you make it at the end of the day. Maybe you have no interest in settling down just yet and that is okay. You mention you go on a date here and there, but do you give the girl a chance or do you decide quick in to things that she is not the one for you. Maybe you need to spend more time getting to know a girl before you know if there is a spark there or not.
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