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writes: I have a weird sexual problem.I'm 19. I should be craving sex all the time. I know I used to crave sex all the time little more than a year ago...I have no desire now. I do have sex and it isn't like a chore, even though I get no physical pleasure, I enjoy it because I love pleasuring my bf. But I remember the good all days when he just kissed me and bam!... I was all, um, wet. Now it's like my nerve endings are numb. Kisses, caressing, and nothing! None of my erogenous zones seem to work (not my boobs, lips, neck... none!). Oral sex no longer does it, just nothing... I haven't orgasmed from him in a loooong time!It's frustrating. It's not him. i used to have such great sex with him. And he's INCREDIBLY HOT!!! I'm so attracted to him. It's me. And you know why? Because I no longer need to masturbate. I no longer fantasize. I have NO fantasies, and the ones that used to turn me on no longer work, and I have no imagination nor desire to fantasize. And porn... I used to get off on porn. It doesn't work anymore. I CAN orgasm if I masturbate and make an effort but 5 out of 10 I'll get tired and leave it at that because I get no pleasure. Masturbating does feel like a chore. I feel like I do it only to prove myself that I can still orgasm. And they're pretty lame orgasms too.Yes, I am on the pill. But this started a long time before I started taking the pill. I don't even check out guys because it seems my sexual desire has died. Help! I'm too young for this to happen! Any suggestions? Please, no "spice things up in the bedroom", because we've tried new positions and nothing stimulates me. I'm in my best shape ever, but I don't feel "sexy"... not because I think I'm unattractive, rather I don't feel sexy because I'm never in a sexy mood.This makes me sad... I try relaxing and letting go, but it just doesn't kick in...
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reader, able  +, writes (25 June 2008):
hi im here to say Ive had that problem but it seems temporary you worry to much about proving to yourself dont focus on every orgasm or compare sexual experiences to others just of sex as being new every time you have it with your boyfriend dont think somethings wrong to where it effects you every time
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reader, secondbestinthis +, writes (16 June 2008):
try a vacation from each other, (not a BREAK!! ;)) But, like if it isn't easily and readily available, you'll start wanting it i think, probably a week at the most...i went thru the same thing and it lasted a whole freaking year! But then it came back, big time (i'm in my 20s)! I think you'll be fine and good luck!
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reader, OhLawdWhat DoIDo  +, writes (16 June 2008):
 This is a problem you need to go see your GP about!
Best of luck!
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