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writes:Be honest...am I nitpicking?? Last night I took my boyfriend to dinner, what I ordered was HORRIBLE, he even said it looked bad. I couldn't eat it at all..I had a few bites of my sides and then just didn't touch the meal. My boyfriend loved his meal, he ate every single bite and when he got to his last two bites (literally) he asked if I wanted a bite... is this rude? Then he looked at his empty plate and sad "Happy Plate" and looked at my completely full plate and sad "Sad Plate", I was irritated so I just didn't say anything.Then we went shopping and I got a horrific stomach ache. We went home and I ended up getting really sick. He just sat in the chair and watched TV. Finally I got hungry and even said outloud, I'm actually getting hungry (being that I didn't eat dinner) and he didn't say anything. So I just stood up and went to bed...He then followed me into the room and started acting like he cared..I was just so irritated at the point I just wanted to go to sleep. I guess I am frustrated that just the very night before he had the sniffles and I took complete care of him and was loving and compassionate and then when it comes to me, he could care less...am I nitpicking?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): Hi. Hope you are feeling better now. One thing I have learned is that most men are big babies when they are sick, but if the woman is sick, she is supposed to keep going on like she is superwoman or something. You aren't being nitpicky, but guys don't seem to naturally have that nuturing instinct. I don't want to say your guy is a jerk, but he sure didn't seem to be very sympathetic to you, poor girl. I would have been extremely upset/hurt if my husband acted that way. Maybe your guy really didn't realize that you were ill at first? But word of advice, don't expect alot of sympathy when you don't feel good, because you probably won't get it. My husband is a doctor and somehow he can totally tune me out when I'm not feeling well, unless I really put on a big production! And who wants to do that? I'm sorry dear, but alot of it is just the difference between men and women, I guess.I'm not saying all guys are like this, but quite a few of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): No love you are not nitpicking at all he is a TYPICAL inconsiderate male.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): hey - to be brutally honest, you are nitpicking. not that you don't have the right to feel slighted, but you are definitely nitpicking.
perhaps he felt that if you were not happy about your meal, you would have sent it back since it was obviously prepared poorly. it seems you expect him to read your mind.
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