A
female
age
30-35,
*francy
writes:hello dear cupid, well this is my story. when i left high school i met a guy during the holiday, i usually hear about him but i rarely saw him before. he is my friend's nephew. one night at their family's wedding he asked his aunt about me, and told her that he likes me and wanted me to be his girlfriend. when his aunt told me i replied that i like him too even though i do not really know his background.. so we started dating. the following year i had to go to the university in the city while he had to remain behind because he was still in high school , texts and cell phone calls was the only way how we made the relationship grew, but then after a while he suddenly told me that he fell in love with a girl at their school so he did not want to cheat on me.. maybe he was scared that i would cheat on him because of the educational differences and distance but that was never my intentions.. so we broke up. when it was school holiday i went back home we made up and everything was fine but then during the time we were apart i dated his cousin, after the school started again he heard about it and broke up with me again.. a month later a friend of mine introduced me to her brother in-law who was looking for a single gal at the university , this was a great match he name was the opposite of my name, we use to get along, we loved each other i trusted him but he doubted me because of the says in my country that university girls can never be trusted they break men's hearts but that was not how i was.. because i did not really got over my first high school boy i kept on confusing who i really wanted to be with, i kept on going back to my ex and he wouldnt reject me. i then kept on treating this second guy like i dnt trust and need him in my life. one day after an argument he decided to break up with me i accepted because i felt like hes nothing to me i have my first BF so i didnt try to fix anything since i was even the cause of everything. just after he broke up with me my first boyfriend who was like my ex broke up with me because he caught me kissing another guy... so i ended up losing them all.. the problem now is that i cant get over of my second ex and am ever regretting treating him bad but its like he moved on with his life because ever since we broke he stopped contacting.. he was such my university sweetheart and now i keep on growing love for him everyday.. what should i do please help..
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 Am afraid the damage here is now done, we learn from our msitakes and i hope that you learn that when you are dating one guy you cant cheat on him or try hooking up with another guy. Am afraid life teaches us a lesson in the most awful way by making us miss someone we thought we never would and now you miss this man but you know yourself you didnt treat him right therefore he is never going to trust you again so you need to move on and leave these men in your past and meet someone new and treat him well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): Often people drift away from a person who is too clingy, asks for too much, and gives back only a 'smothering' type of 'loving' that is NOT loving at all, but is demanding and becomes hard to endure. If he had wanted to look you up again he would have done so by now. Develop you as a person, look outside yourself by learning a new language, visit a national park or plan a holiday to somewhere exotic, volunteer at a program that assists people down on their luck. Start going to the gym more regularly every week. Take some action to get more financially savvy. Aim to be debt free in a finite number of years. Read some books that develop your mind - maybe Greek or British classics. Or walk for two sets of 30 minutes daily, Move on in yr life. Pretty soon you will become this fascinating interesting woman who people will be drawn to. You are not the same woman you were then (or you should not be if you have grown in life experience and wisdom) You may have aged a little (we all do) and may not look the same. Your circumstances may have changed for better or not. You are indulging in self centred nostalgia without empathy for his circumstances. He may have a great life. Your intrusiion will not help.
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