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36-40,
*olovley
writes:hi. i know this is of my own making but ive lied to every boyfriend ive ever had (2) about orgasming. i make noises and they thik im having a great time. i do this really because it makes the experience more sexy for me, but i know its totally misleading. i masturbate mainly to girl on girl porn and i dont know if this has anything to do with it. i really enjoy having sex with my boyfriend i always get really turned on but never any orgasm. my boyfriend before didnt have a big penis and neither does my current one, and they both come very quickly, i dont know is this the reason? i told my current boyfriend after a year that i had never actually come and he was so devestated i got straight back into lying again. i can come anytime when i do it myself but never through sex. i do get that feeling like i need to pee but nothing has ever come of it. i would love to share that experience with my boyfriend and its kinda getting me down. what can i do?
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reader, charm5  +, writes (27 December 2008):
I feel the same as you do...I been seeing this guy and from the begining I been telling him but he doesnt listen..I dont fake it he asumes I had an orgasm..I told him again and he got offended and wants to buy a toy..I explain again thatis all wrong and to listen as I guide him..So the next time I faked it and he was the happiest man in the world..WTF! I think some men should be more open and to take the time in getting their partners to reach climax and to listen. For some women is hard and it takes a long time.foreplay is an escensial part of lovemaking.Is ok to utilize fantasies to help in the process.. If getting off with woman to woman images work then do so..
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (27 December 2008):
making noises during sex is fine, they love it and if it helps you to enjoy it then do it. i think people need to be more vocal during sex.
as for the faking, it's only you who is missing out. you need to maybe teach your guy what you like. use your hands on top of his and show him what you like. during sex ask him to do different things, posistions,etc. he will love it and you may never have to fake again
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): If you keep pretending to orgasm, then how is anyone gonna ever know your not really enjoying yourself. Your not having an orgasm because the guys you are sleeping with come to quick. Forget about the girl-on-girl porn that's fantasy, and unless you start wanting to have sex with other women you meet, your no lesbian as far as I can see.
Keep on telling lies and the guys will think they are doing great. Your normal, you don't orgasm, because the guys you are sleeping with are doing it wrong. Enjoy what you can from your sexual experiences but don't tell lies. Tell them they need to slow down and show them the things you like that will properly bring you to orgasm. What you are doing now is fooling bad lovers into thinking that they are wonderful and great. The first guy probably had the surprise of his life when he met somebody else and she told him how bad he was in bed. Stop lying in bed, that's the worse thing a woman can do to herself or somebody else. Ask him to increase the foreplay and get sexual satisfaction from that. If you don't orgasm through sexual intercourse tell him, but explain that it's nice to be held and to be intimate with him, you don't want to stop, you just want to practise and try things until you both enjoy it and orgasm through penetrative sex.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (27 December 2008):
 Contrary to the implications by "pvtguy" I think that you are an entirely normal heterosexual girl who has yet to meet a dude who knows much of anything about pleasing a woman.
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