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writes: Hi, maybe I just want some reassurance but do you people think that this could work?I met a girl 26, I am 32 a couple of weeks ago when I was out for a night on the town. I won't lie, we were very attracted to each other and by the end of the night ended up doing a little kissing (no sex).A couple days later she got a hold of me (I was going to do the same but obviously she knows what she wants).Our first date went well. There were no hold ups and we just felt right together and talked and talked and talked. We ended up having sex and both want to see each other again. We also discussed past sexual partners and neither of us have had a crazy large amount.I was in a long term relationship (a long time ago for 6 years) and she never was. We are both professionals career wise and seem to have the same outlook on life and what we want in a couple of years. Basically we are looking for the same thing. We also have tons in common and share a lot of the same beliefs.She has had a lot of bad luck with men in the past and seem to have a very positive outlook with us. She wants to give it a try and is willing to work as hard as she has to to overcome an hurdles. Basically, she says she is in it for the long hall.Normally I am the one who wants to be the one who wants to rush into relationships but it looks like we both are. This could be a good thing or a bad thing.She also seems to have a very high sex drive. Mine is medium. I know differences like these have caused problems in the past. She is willing for me to satisify her in other ways and is not always expecting intercourse and that is fine with me. So I could guess you could say we are able to compromise.I have know this person for a week and have never really opened up to someone this quicky. We both have done some things that we never really done before.This just feels right, it did from the moment we met each other. Could this be just infatuation? Can people just met each other, start to have sex and just jump into a relationship and live happily ever after? I always hear people say no, it can't happen. I have know people who have met under similar circumstances and have excellent marriages.Either way I am not going to pass up this opportunity. But I just wanted other peoples opinion.
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (16 April 2006):
Well what I would say is that if the relationship is going to last, will be because it is based on openness and honesty. Really, to invest in this relationship, you should be telling her what you have told us - be as open as you can, and see how it feels, see if it brings you closer, see if you like how she reacts.
And ask her the same things - how does she feel about the whirlwind? See if she is open with you.
It's all about communication.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (16 April 2006):
 What you've described sounds very promising, so I wish you well.
On a personal note, I met my husband and we moved in together within 3 days of meeting, and we've racked up 19 years together so far. So it is possible to have a success like this.
My only suggestion to you is not to anticipate anything. Don't get married in six weeks, say, or decide that you both want to cement your feelings by creating one perfect, cherubic child. If you're suited to each other, then things will work out and there's no need to rush into formalising a relationship. Let things come naturally, whether that's Happily Ever After, or working through problems as they come up.
As willwombat suggests, give it three months, then step back and analyse where you are. Then give it six months more. THEN start thinking seriously about your relationship.
Meanwhile, enjoy the feeling!
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reader, lea22dc +, writes (15 April 2006):
I'm currently in the same situation. Things started off get, but the bumps in the road was soon to come. We both had bad relationships, but his were far worse. From that he's very insecure, untrusting that my motives are pure. But they are and I really like him so I just have to be a little patient with him. So I guess what I'm trying to say is, if you both want it and willing to work at it, then GO FOR IT!!!
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reader, willywombat +, writes (15 April 2006):
 This could be the start of something really, really special. Just sit back and go with the flow. Both of you should give it 3 months and then reavaluate where you are and take it from there.
This sounds good and I wish you all the best.xx
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (15 April 2006):
 Listen it may only be a short time that you have known one another, if you are talking a lot then think about the protection side of things with sex but you are both adults so that is up to the two of you.
You have one life and you are too long in the ground so if it feels right then enjoy yourself, no one knows whats around the corner and if you don't go for it now then you could live to regret it.
There is no right or wrong and everyone is different so if you are enjoying yourselves and are happy then have fun. You lucky devil you!!!
BFN
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reader, smeedle +, writes (15 April 2006):
 Go for it, none of us know what will happen in the long term when we start a relationship so just go with it and dont think about it so much, enjoy!!
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