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writes:I am in a marriage that I am not happy in. I am still here because he is not the biological father of my son. They love eachother very much. How can I take that away from my child. I have had 2 affairs in the past and I am just sick of not being happy. I want to be in a marriage where I feel loved. what can i do??
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reader, daisygirl01  +, writes (7 September 2008):
My husband says he has ended the affair. I was there when he talked to the other woman. Yet I have this feeling that he is talking with her from his cell phone. She told him that she loved him. She also said that she just wanted to be his friend. He told her they could not be friends. She was determined to be his friend. So I asked my husband to get a record of his cell phone for the last month. He gets so upset and very protective - he said that I am supposed to trust him. He has so much anger when I ask. So my question is is talking with her. We were seperated for 5 weeks. I lost my job and he has made sure that I can not access his phone acccount.
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reader, Isabella1974  +, writes (9 May 2008):
 Hiya, is there any major reasons why you are not happy in your marriage? is there something you can work out with your husband, are you arguing alot?
If will be painful for your child if she has become very close to your husband and then you decided you are not happy and walk away. Life does not always go the way we plan or expect it to, of course, everyone deserves to be happy, but for now the happiness of your child comes first.
Try to figure out the reasons you are not happy? I think you need to go to conselling and try to get to the bottom of why you are feeling this way, could you be depressed?
its sounds like you are feeling unloved? or are looking for something thats not there. Try to see what you have got at the moment and weight up the pros and cons, how would you feel if you were no longer with your husband, would it make you happier, try this for all you sakes and see what effect it will have on your child.
Get some professional help, see can you address issues and dont have any more affairs as this is contributing to your problems and is not the answer.
Hope this helps. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): If marriage counseling is out of the question, it sounds like a visit to
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ would do you good.
I went there a few years ago when I realized I was getting much too close to a man not my husband. A few weeks of reading the pages and looking through the forums, and I managed to stop the madness and straighten myself out. Even better, I was able to improve my relationship with my husband to the point that I have been fulfilled and really happy and in love with him for years! (I just surfed in to dearcupid out of curiosity) It was hard work but got easier and easier with practice.
Affairs are not the answer! The bloom wears off the rose every time. You need to gain the skills to get what you want out of a relationship, as well as give back too.
Best of luck!
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