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writes:2009-2010 was not a good year for me. There was bullying and a lot of other stuff going on. At the end of it I was pretty much broken and suicidal.In August I hit rock bottom. Then I started to heal.Now, I've started to enjoy life again. I've met this new boy. From talking to him, he seems like a genuinely nice person, really sweet and kind.He's friends with my cousin, who agrees with my view of him, and he also knows a lot of my friends who also say that I'm right about him.The problem is that he's 19/20 and I'm 16. We wouldn't have sex until I'm legal (which would be in December) but I'm really afraid of getting hurt again. Do you think getting involved with him is a good idea?Please help, X.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011): the age difference is *not huge
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011): I don't see why not. As long as you don't see this boy as the key to your happiness then sure. Just take it slow, relax and enjoy yourself.
That age difference is huge and as long as he doesn't have a bad rep then I'd say go for it.
Look there's always a chance that it might not work and you might get hurt. There is that risk with any age guy, are you ready to be able to handle that if it happens?
A lot has happened as you said, have you gained enough strength and moved enough forward from all that to start this?
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (28 February 2011):
 Are you ready for a relationship?
That's the question you really need to ask yourself. If you aren't sure, then maybe wait and stay just friends for a bit until you are ready.
You've checked this guy out with other people and he seems to be a nice guy. That's great! A definite plus. You're going to want to make sure he's interested in more than friendship. Has he asked you out? Have either of you been dropping romantic hints?
This might be a good idea for you. Just make sure you take it slow with giving your heart away, and with physical stuff. Make sure you're keeping yourself strong and thinking about that too. Best of luck :)
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