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writes:It's been 5 years and i STILL havn't got over him!! I saw this guy when i was 11 and me and my friend all thought he was sooo 'hot'. A basic school girl crush, nothing more. I'm very shy, so i never talked to him, but when he saw me (downtown or at school) he would always smile at me... but i never did find out 'who' he was. Eventually i forgot about him when he moved away to go to college (he's about 4 years older than me). Fast forward to last year. My mom had just gotten a new job working as head chef at a resturant. Her boss is super nice guy, and whenever he needed something done for the resturant (menus, kids menus, 'daily special' signs, etc, etc...) done he would always ask me because he knew how much i enjoyed that sort of stuff. So needless to say our families became quite close. A few months into the job my mom started telling me about the 'bosses son'... haha, hint hint on my mom's part there. She kept telling me how good looking at sweet he was. But of course, because she's my mom i didn't really take it that seriously and just kinda brushed it off... like any teenager i figured that my mom probably had bad taste. Boy was i wrong!! That summer i found out just how wrong i was. You've probably guessed it by now, but the 'bosses son' turned out to be mr. wonderful, lol, my crush from 4 years ago. As soon as i saw him i knew who he was, and all my 'feelings' came back. I did everything and anything to avoid being introduced to him and making a goof out of myself (i'm pretty good at that =P). And to this day i've done pretty good... only problem is my feelings are not going away like everyone said they would... they're getting worse! Most peoples crushes are on those who they find physically attractive, but then when the find out what the person behind the beauty is really like the crush fades away. I'll admit in the beggining i like him because he was good looking, but i have since found out he is also and amazing guy, and he dosn't have a girlfriend. He's fair game... except for that fact that i suck at talking to guys, hence the reason i've never really had a boyfriend. I'm afraid if i never say anything to him things are just going to get worse and worse... but i just don't know how to get up enough courage to approach him. And then, if i do get the courage, what am i supposed to say? what if he likes me too!? What if he dosn't?! how will i handle the rejection? I know this question has probably been asked 101 times over, but what am i supposed to do? i really like him and don't want to screw things up!
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (7 June 2007):
 Life is all about taking risks. You will never forgive yourself if you don't at least try to get to know this guy. Start by simply saying "hello" and smile at him. Be genuine. Then you could always make a joke about something at the restaurant, like a funny person who comes in wearing a weird hat, or the patron that always orders the same thing for dinner every time they come in. You'll think of something I'm sure. Tell him he looks nice, or you like the color of shirt he's wearing. He'll get the hint. Afterall, that's how small-talk was invented. Just be yourself. Relax and smile and see where things go. If he doesn't feel the same way about you, well at least you tried. You can always be friends if nothing else. Many years ago I saw this gorgeous guy playing guitar on an outdoor patio at a local pub in my hometown. He was dark-skinned, had long wavy hair and a small silver earring. He was wearing a white tank top, faded jeans and carmel colored boots. I almost tripped walking to the table where my friends were sitting I was so busy gawking at him. He was beautiful in every sense of the word. When the musicians took a break, he came over to the area where we were sitting so he could smoke, but I was so nervous and tongue-tied I couldn't say a thing to him so I just smiled like a dope and sat there wishing I had the nerve to talk to him. Fast forward 10 years later and I bumped into him again. This time, I walked right up to him and introduced myself and told him I enjoyed his music. We started chatting...and chatting....and chatting. Pretty soon we were meeting for drinks, and dinner and...now we've been living together for 2 years. Sometimes when I'm lying next to him in the dim morning light, I marvel at how beautiful he really is with his silky, golden skin, and his long wavy black hair scattered across the white pillows and I think about all the years we could've been together enjoying each other if I would've just had the nerve to talk to him back then. Don't waste another minute! You never know what could happen! Good luck!!
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reader, princessleia +, writes (7 June 2007):
 ok.. this probably seems like its come back to bite you on the ass but it can be a good thing.how about getting your mum to arrange a party and invite the other family.. u said they were close right??so when he comes over you have an excuse to look all pretty and goddessy - its a party after all!as for conversation a good line would be -so my mum wants us to get together - how weird right? i've never even met u! and laugh.chances are he'll remember you and go 'but hey i've seen u around before'you can act all surprised and be like 'really' ' i you'd think i would have remembered you' and look him up and down.the conversation should just flow as you've complimented him and flirted in the one sentence... job done ! now relax and talk about music etcsoon youll be good friends or moretell me how it turns outleia
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