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writes:I've always thought of this guy as the love of my life, we weren't really together for that long under two years and that was almost ten years ago. Five years ago he contacted me and said he wanted me back that he still loved me had never stopped loving me. I was in a relationship then and I was scared of the intensity of the emotions he brought back. We kept in contact for awile and then lost touch, I found him again last Saturday, this time I told him I still loved him and wanted him back, he's the one in a relationship now, he said he still loves me, but he's been with her for a while, he said he was scared that I had brought back a lot of feelings, we started talking and texting each other during the day, even had phone sex, I posted pictures and this blog about how much I loved him and pretty much just poured my whole heart out in it.I was gonna drive to see him in about a week we don't live close any more, he said he would see me at first, but he called yesterday and I asked how his day was going he said better now, I said he sounded sad its not me is it? He said yes, that he loves me will always love me but he has a kid, not hers but in a previous relationship has joint custody, she lives with him, his kid likes her, and he just can't take the chance, he said that if it was just him he would go for it, said he wouldn't even see me, I've got myself so caught up in this its like my heart is breaking all over again, what do I do, how do I go on without him, how can I just leave him alone, I look at his myspace, I heard the love in his voice, I know he loves me, why isn't love enough?
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reader, survivor1987 +, writes (14 December 2008):
My answer is one I had to endure once, and I didnt think I would make, but I had to.The answer? the heart and mind are seperate.The mind pretty much knows the truth, and accepts it. The heart? not so fast.. a heart is like a four year old child.. it doesnt understand, and you have to make it .I think you two will always have love for each other, but this is how it has to be.. at least you both were honest with each other about things.Yes, it hurts,but I have faith in you, and I think you will be ok,hon.
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