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writes:Over the last couple of months i have been getting very friendly with a girl who works on the checkout at my local supermarket. We chat a lot and share lots of eye contact, and when i am walking away with my trolley after paying i look back and she is still fixated on me. Now i always try to get on her checkout, and when she see's i'm there i can see her getting nervous. I saw her last night and i really wanted to ask if she had a boyfriend, but it just never materialised, i got nervous myself, and there was people in the queue as well. We were both asking what we were doing this weekend, and next weekend, and she remembers something i did on previous weekends too. I touched her hand as she gave me the reciept yesterday, just to let her know i like her. i really feel there is something developing here, but i have respect that she is at work and has to maintain some professionalism. I really like this girl a lot and want to take her on a date. Any advice on the best way to tackle this would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (11 November 2018):
 We've seen this situation before, so I'm wondering if it was from you.
Important:
How old are you?
How old do you think she is? (If she doesn't look like she's around your age or older, don't try anything; it'll come across as creepy.)
Avoid flirting or touching her hand until you know she's interested in dating you, as it's usually very uncomfortable for service providers to be hit on by customers at work, unless they are interested, but she could just be being polite. Some people go above and beyond to be pleasant to customers, so no more flirty behaviour until you know where you stand. It could also get her in trouble if her colleagues notice, even though she's just being nice.
Write your name and mobile number on a small piece of paper (IF she looks like she's your age, NOT 10+ years younger!), then slip it to her when you pay or something. Speak to her discretely: "I apologise if this is too forward or I've misread your kindness, but I'd like to meet for coffee sometime. If you're interested, here's my number, but no harm done if not."
Bear in mind, with you being the customer, it could put her in a very awkward position, if she doesn't want to date you. She may see her politeness s negative because it unintentionally lead you on. She may find it hard to turn you down because you're a customer. She may feel embarrassed in case anyone else sees you give her your number. The list of negatives go on, really.
If you want to go ahead with it, do, but only if she appears to be your age and you do it discreetly. Be prepared for a no and to avoid her in the supermarket in future, just in case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2018): Agree with previous posts - write your number on a piece of paper with a line saying something like - if you fancy getting a coffee sometime call me on xxxx
One of my friends used to work in a shop and was asked out by a customer that way and they are now married with two kids. So you never know!
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2018): Be a little scheming here, next time you go shopping wait till there is nobody in the queue then approach her. Ask her If you can invite her for a coffee when she finishes work. Try to keep calm and nice. I am sure she will not turn you down. Good luck.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (11 November 2018):
 Pass her your phone number on a piece of paper and say something like "If you ever fancy a chat, give me a call" and leave it at that. When/if she phones you, you can take it from there.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2018): Write your name and number on a piece of paper. Next time you're inline, quickly hand it to her. Apologize if it's too forward; but you'd like to take her out for coffee, if she isn't seeing anyone. Don't hold-up the check-line! Speak softly and be discreet. Be respectful.
She might say she's seeing someone, married, or maybe. She may blush and not say anything. Be patient. The next move is hers.
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reader, CherryR07 +, writes (11 November 2018):
You could always write your name and number on a piece of paper and write something like, 'call me?', and give it to her. If she calls you, then ask her if she's interested in going out for a drink or something.
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