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writes:Hi aunts and uncles. I need advice badly, I'm not sure what to do. I'm 30, female and currently living miles away from home as decided to go back to university to become a teacher secondary school. I was working in pr previous to this, but in a bad company and on a very low 22,000 a year. So not to good. But I was settled and lived in nice flat and was seeing lovely man who was really into me. I was awful though I kept pushing and then pulling said man. I love him so much but at time was hang up over ex boyf who is toxic and evil. So had this lovely wonderful man but kept pushing/pulling away and I'm silly cause I regret that. His perfect for me and love him so much. Anyway... So I was in job, (which is where met guy) and then guy left job after few months me being there. But we turn got together, so yep working in pr, with boy but not really sure if want him and living in nice flat in town! Then I go muck it all up. An ex once said I should be s teacher and I'm 30 and thought maybe i should not earning money here and I applied to be secondary drama teacher. I only got into Plymouth uni, and I'm from and live in London. So upshot! This sept moved there and began course! Now over the last year me and the boy we'd been mates/ together then back again and before moved I realised I wanted to be with him but he said go for year and were see. He dotted on me, really did! Thought I'd marry him! So off went and now 2 months later I'm miserable. I don't enjoy course, I'm finding teaching really hard. Although enjoyable, all the work is killing me. I'm lonely in Plymouth and when I went I realise just how much I love boy! Only now it's too late Basically this weekend eveythings come to head! I've got till tomorrow to decide if stay a teacher and keep going with course or leave come back to London and go back to pr! If I come back to London got nowhere to live, no job, no money. If stay I'm not sure really want to teach deep down! I just want a career, I'm 30 and had very unsettled life and just want job, money buy place to live. I'm finding course hard really hard and not sure want to teach! But then it's good job, but then so is pr and I've got 3 years experience and I'd go for more money. I just don't know what to do and have to decide by tomorrow. Ok so on top of that! I also found out that toxic evil ex is having baby and also even worse the boy I love and who is lovely is moving in with his girlfriend who been with since September in jan and it's serious! I'm devastated! This is worst weekend of life. I really love him and when moved here I realise just how much. I have told him and his been sweet about it said love me as friend. But I know it's all my fault in first place as I pushed him away! I regret it so much! So my awful life is just getting worse! 30, no job direction, no man, no money, nowhere to live. Unhappy! I'm waking up at 5am every morning, not eating and crying all time. Got sick feeling in stomach. Got enough with trying to work out if to stay as teacher even though stressful or to go back London where not lonely and back to pr. Now also gotta deal with fact that I'm alone and man I love is moving in with girl! And another ex having kid! Whist I have nothing! No man, no clue what career direction to go in, an miserable, got no money and am sleeping on friends sofa! What do I do?? I just want to meet someone (well ideally get with boy and marry him) but that isn't going to happen since moving in with someone! So yes I want to finally meet someone move in with them, work, earn some decent money and be happy!Help me decide! Teaching or pr! I've got 24 hours to decide! And how can I stop feeling like this as everything bad happened at once xxxx
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reader, petina1 +, writes (28 November 2010):
 Teaching would not be a career I'd want, it is so stressful and such hard work these days for no thanks. You've not being able to decide on anything really have you. But now that you do realize what it is you want you have seen it all slip away. That should be something to think about when you find something of value in the future that you should not let it go because chances don't come to often. What I would suggest is to live now for the present. Stay with the money and work and save. Look for jobs in London with your qualifications theres more than just teaching jobs you can do, and don't move back until you have one otherwise you won't have any stability when you do get there. You'd have to plan your move from where you are, after all at least you have money coming in. I'ts no fun with no money coming in at all, no place to live so that's what you have to plan. Once you have all that in place, a man will come later. I'ts not the be all and end all to have a man, they usually complicate things anyway. Get your own life in order. Like you say youve nothing to come back to really so stay where you are for the time being. When the plans are in place there's always another bus, train, car to get you back to London. You need security first and foremost. Good Luck!
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