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writes: Hi, I really need some good advice because I'm really hurting at the moment. And I’m sorry if this question is a long one!I and my girlfriend did have a really good relationship, that was until I raised the question that we don’t spend enough time with each other. So I suggested that we go out for a meal one night just the two of us now I can’t see anything wrong with spending some time alone with your girlfriend but I might be wrong!So I took her out for a meal and had a nice evening with her. I asked her if she enjoyed herself and she said yes, but she also said that she felt it wasn’t anything different form if we went out with are mates. I don’t think she understands the concept of spending time alone.So I talked to her about it. and it always seems that if we kiss I’ve got to be the one to do it, I’ve spent 2grand on her in 4 months and I’m a student, I feel now that because I’m a bit insucer I've thrown money at her.I tell her I love her all the time, and I do everything I can for her, I’ve giving her my all!But after talking to her about her making a bit more of an effort she ended up getting pissed of and upset..so now I really don’t no what to do, I love this girl so much and if we split up I really don’t no what I will do..So if any one had any advice on how I can talk to her and sort things out I would appreciate it so much...
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (22 January 2006):
 Hey, me again...
Just wanted to add...
Dont pussy- foot with the issue, just tell her YOU are now pissed off big time with her and her lack of interest in your relationship... be a little harsh with her, I get the feeling this girl needs a firmer hand... You have been much too accomodating towards her and much too soft... I think this could be the source of her problem.
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reader, fairyangel +, writes (22 January 2006):
Your girlfriend is a spoiled brat.
You seem to have invested more into this relationship than she has, she seems to be rather ungrateful of the way she is treated by you.
If I were you, I would make sure of how serious she is about you, have a good talking to her... you seem such a kind and generous soul, dont let her take advantage of that. Take Care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2006): Rather than worrying about why she is so upset you need to take a step back and re-evaluate the relationship. I understand that you love this girl but trying to buy her attention and you constantly doing the chasing can't be doing your own self esteem any good. You need to ask yourself why does she not think spending time with you is important?? think about when you first sarted dating, what attracted you to her? what did you have in common? How did you spend your time together? If you find that these have drastically changed then you need to think whether the relationship is worth continuing. Sometimes relationships change as people change and it seems to me that you are making all the effort and not getting anything in return. Why would you stay in a relationship where you are not valued? I hope you can have a good think and a frank discussion with her and see where to go from here.
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