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writes: I have fallen in love completely with the girl I believe I want to spend the rest of my life with. We are constantly texting each other, or talking on the phone or online. I know how I feel about her and I know I could never hurt her, but she has only come out of a relationship that lasted around 18 months and don't know how she feels about me. I adore her and have fallen for her too soon, but now she's constantly on my mind and I dont think I can live without her. I have no idea how she feels about me, but she must like me or she wouldn't bother would she? I could wait forever for her, and dont want to pressurize her but it's hard for me to hold back my feelings, especially when i'm around her. I think the world of her, and when she's not around my world stops turning.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2005): There is time limit on how long it takes to fall in and out of love with someone. Honestly, it maybe too soon for her. Just hang low, and show her what a good guy does. Let things happen in their own time. If you try to rush her, you may scare her off. Just be a good friend and slowly tell her how you feel
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reader, Mickey_Powell +, writes (13 June 2005):
 You should tell her how you feel. If a guy said to me what you just said, i would hold onto him for the rest of my life and never let him go!! If her reply is that she likes you too you should make a good go of things. but if her reply is its too soon ive only just come out of a relationship, she wants you to understand and wait a bit longer!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2005): I know what you have to do... you have to HINT at things! start off a normal conversation and lead to a convo about relationships and what she's feeling and stuff like that. you can casually say that you have SOME feelings about her... but dont come out and say that you are completley in love with her.. yet... tell her that you have a crush on her... if she doesnt like you back, then just say "well im sure it will blow over soon, after all, its just a crush" and if she does in fact like you, then thats good! after a little while, tell her you love her and go from there. just try it! o and by the way... my name is natalie.. haha i just wanted to say that... bye
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (9 June 2005):
 Whoa, Romeo! Settle, big fella...Firstly, you need to ditch all the romantical hoo-hah. You CAN live without her (what did you think you were doing before she came along?). The world WILL continue turning etc. You're not writing this to convince me; you're trying to convince *yourself* that you're in love with this girl. But you're not.You can't be in love with someone when you're only at the "we-text-all-the-time" stage. You can certainly have a crush, be flirtatious with, be attracted to, dream about, fantasise about and lust after her, but love is requires a serious, in-depth understanding of someone. You may grow to love her - of course! - but by whipping yourself into a frenzy right now because you're attracted to her, you're clouding the issues. And you may very well frighten her right off.You have no idea how she feels about you, so why don't you start with that. Recast your feelings in this light: "I'm very attracted to this girl and my feelings are definitely romantic, but I really have to get to know her before anything can possibly happen." Then get to know her.It sounds like you have a good start. You already talk and text, so why not spend some time with her... you know, on a date? If she's not ready for that yet, because of her last relationship, then she's not ready for your snowballing affection. If that's the case, you have to give her some room. Being in love with someone sometimes means you have to think of their feelings first, so you might have to keep it platonic for a while.You can make small gestures at this time, but be sure not to go over the top. Give her a little gold chain for her birthday, but not a diamond-studded bracelet, if you know what I mean. Give her a little hug when she needs it, but don't go in for the full-on snog. Do you see what I'm getting at?You can be her next boyfriend, if you keep your dreams realistic. Don't push her, just be there. Remember, if you're destined to spend the rest of your life with her, then there's plenty of time. Respect that she needs time to get over her last relationship, and give her a chance to take note of what a good man you are. Then, in the meantime, you can actually get to know the person that lives under her exterior appearance... Right?
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