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writes:I have a problem. I think I like my friend's boyfriend! I have known him since elementery school (which is longer than she's known him) but the thing is he never really looked that attractive to me until about a year ago. I think he knows Ii like him because one time I asked him out and he said he had a girlfriend so I got to know his girlfriend and me and her have become pretty good friends. It scared me because the other day me and him were walking to our school bus... he gave me a hug... but the weird thing is that when he gave me a hug he still kept his arm around me! So I just kept my arm around him and we were walking together with our arms on each other. Sometimes I think he likes me back. What do I do? I really like being friends with his girlfriend! She is a nice person and really has a lot going for her... example - she wants to wait till marriage before having sex and she is really sweet and he was her first kiss and I don't want it to hurt her if he broke up with her for me! or what if she sees how we walked together. I mean everyone says me and him look like we go out because some days me and him will go to breakfast at school and not even wait on his girlfriend... we sit together, we listen to music together... what do I do?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): dear friend,i know how u'd be feeling.it's really one hard cookie to bite when u see him with his girlfriend.but my friend one earnest advice i wud like to give is try and try real hard to detach from that guy.u may feel severe pangs f agony......and disorientation ......but in the end u'd have ur conscience clear and happy which matters the most..........
look out for other people .......enlarge your social network.....but dont at all be alone urself......by doin so u definitely gonna win urself back..........
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reader, Ted-ster +, writes (7 March 2009):
There's a great word in the English language: next. Do not screw up relationships. Find some other sandbox to play in: there are other pebbles on the beach. Don't be THAT girl that people talk about. ake good choice here, and move on. Very simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): Leave him alone! It doesn't matter how long you knew him. It's not fair to her. Then you became friends with her, that wasn't a smart move, if you really liked him. There are too many boys out there. You do not want to be one of "those chicks." Nobody will want to be your friend and you will get a bad reputation. You don't need that. Plus you wouldn't want that to happen to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): This is easy. Obvious options:
A) Mess up your relationship with your friend and go for the boyfriend.
b) Keep your feelings to yourself and stay friends with your friend.
It's really not that hard. If I was in your situation, it would be an automatic reflex, like a hot stove is to my hand. My friend is my friend and his lover is his lover. Period.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): Please learn this lession while you're young. Don't try to take another person's beau. You're high school career is just getting started, don't taint your reputation for some loser, who shows zero respect for his girlfriend.
Good luck.
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