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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Am I truly in love with my bestfreind?My best friend is a boy i have known him for several years now and we used to spend everyday together without fail. Now we live far away from each other. within the last year of us living close to each other we started to have a sexual relationship without the label of boyfriend and girlfriend. Physically he is not my typical type but his personality has made me love him. I genuinely have not found anybody else that i can connect with like i do him. Within the last few weeks i have discovered this, due to his new girlfriend hating me. Although he still sometimes tells me he loves me, i have become needy of his attention and i am an emotional wreck when he doesn't acknowledge me. Before he used to tell me he loved me and i would say were just friends so i don't want to ruin his current relationship by telling him i love him and not committing to a relationship. To add to the dilemma i have a massive fear of marriage and who i will eventually marry but i don't want to be too committed to someone at this age because i feel too young. I feel like i would want to marry him but I'm confused as to if I'm truly in love with him.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (17 April 2016):
 We always want what we can't have, but when its right in front of us we don't take it. You had your chance but you pushed him away settling for a FWB. Now that he's taken..you want him. Kind of messed up don't you think?
He isn't being a good boyfriend and you aren't being a good friend. His girlfriend is innocent in this. Of course she doesn't like you and if she knew the whole story she REALLY wouldn't like you!
Why do you want left overs? He moved on, you are his friend and he's using you. You are willing to sell yourself short and take what little he gives to you. Why is that? I don't think its love..its wanting what you don't have just because someone else has it. Think hard on this whole situation. You deserve someone who will devote ALL of themself to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2016): You sound like you're competing for his attention, and you're not respecting the boundaries of his relationship.
Being friend for a long time doesn't override his commitment to his girlfriend; and you wouldn't like anyone after the guy committed to you. You've made some well-placed excuses for your behavior; but you know it's wrong cheating on his girlfriend, and dismissing her feelings.
She certainly can't like the female after her man! Are you being spiteful, that would be so so wrong.
I don't think it's love at all. If he loved you, why won't he leave her for you? Only because he's safe in the middle, getting sex from both you and his girlfriend. Can't you see how convenient it is for him? He's a rat, creeping on his girlfriend. You're his accomplice.
If your hopes are to be a homewrecker; what kind of advice are you expecting here, but to ask you to stop and move-on?
Saying you are in-love with him has no bearing whatsoever on the situation. He's with someone else and hasn't left her. Saying he loves you keeps the sex available.
Sorry, my dear. You're getting played, and if she finds out and gets her hands on you. I don't know what to tell you; except you've got it coming to you. Karma's a bitch!
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