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female
age
30-35,
*oriander
writes:So the first time that I talked to (Male person) was when I still thought that he was taken.So I teased him. But the real first time we really hit it off was at a church dance when I found out that he had broken up with his gf a few weeks ago. At the dance we started to talk and he even let me play with his hair (I’m a hairstylist) and his hair is super curly and we talked about cutting it, since it was getting a little too long. I then invited him to (a particular place) with a few friends of mine after the dance and he tagged along and we shared a milk shake and talked about our life and things. Nothing too special. I ended up going swing dancing with him the next night and we danced all night together and he taught me like eight different dances it was a really nice time. And it felt like he was really enjoying himself teaching me and watching me stumble. The next time I saw him was the next Friday, he texted me on the day, asking him if I was really up for cutting his hair the next day. He came over the next day and I cut his hair and we talked and he snooped around my place while I cut his friends hair. He told me he wanted to see BRAVE and I told him we should see it sometime and he agreed. At this point he did find out that I’ve never been kissed and never had a boyfriend or any of that (we were talking about how many hearts we have broken) but he said I was lucky that I’ve never had to go through that. Anyways he ended up vacuuming for me and his hair. I ended up seeing him that Sunday for dinner (their payment for the cuts) and I spend the entire day there just getting to know him a little, and at this point I thought he was into me. That next wed he offered to change my broken headlight for me, so he stood in the dark cold night even getting on the ground fixing my car, he even offered me blankets to keep me warm while I waited and watched him fix my car.After he was done I offered to repay him but he refused, so we ended up just hugging. I called him the next week and asked him if he wanted to watch brave with me, and he said yes. But later he texted me back and asked if I would like to get sushi too. And HE even came and got me from another city after I got off work (said he didn’t want me out driving out late) and drove me back to his city and he paid for dinner and asked me about my family and made fun of how I can’t use chop sticks, once the movie came we just sat on the couch and he didn’t make a move. Then he drove me back to my place and walked me to my door and we hugged it out. The next day I got food poisoning and I asked him to come over and give me a blessing (an LDS thing) and he brought me ????And once again we hugged it out. And that next Sunday he started to really pull away and since then we have barely talked and haven’t hung out. That was like three weeks ago. BUT he did just get accepted to grad school and is moving back to his state in May... so he has a lot going on and he has told me that before...Also he volunteered to do yard work for my mom later this month... Now my question is what the heck do I do? I have fallen for him and I’ve tried so hard to forget about him the last three weeks, stopped texting him and things, but I still see him three times a week due to church things. I just don’t know if I should let him know how I feel or just keep it in. HE leaves in about a month back to school, and I’m going away for a week in April... so we will have a week of not seeing each other. Any advice will be helpful; I’m just a loss here!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 March 2013):
 Well, if you both are Mormons, I guess it made sense that he pulled away, knowing that he is going back to his own State in May.
I mean, surely he liked you, he liked your company, etc., but Mormons, as far as I know, aren't exactly known for their footloose and fancyfree love lives, right ? They don't do flings, they don't do dating for fun or even less sex for fun. The Article 13 expressely mentions chastity . All in all, your guy must be a serious minded young man, which is great, don't get me wrong, but it does not play in your favour. If he knows he is leaving for good, and going to graduate school, and having lots of things going on, and he just does not know you enough to be ready for a serious, and long-distance ! relationship with you ( plus, long distance is not for everybody , regardless of religion and mindset ) - it sounds pretty normal that he did not want to involve you in a fling, or lead you on, or just take you on a few dates, steal you a few kisses, then disappear.
If you want to tell him how you feel, surely you can, but I think that if he had had the possibility and the will to start something serious with you- he would not have pulled away to begin with.
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