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writes: Hey guys, just hoping for a little advice on this one...I have liked the same girl for close to 3 years now (she is also gay) but I never knew her to speak to. When I got a job in April (after returning for the summer from uni), we started chatting because we work at the same pub. Turns out we have a lot in common and I've only fallen harder for her than ever.I'm trying to decide whether or not to ask her to be my girlfriend because I go back to uni soon and I won't see her until December and after that it won't be until July due to both studies and travel costs etc. Is it a bad idea to ask her out when I won't be here for most of the year? Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated :) Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo I didn't think you were, sorry :) No, your advice is awesome, thank you :)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 August 2014):
 Oh not implying you are ( or she is ). Just general considerations. Regardless of personality though, I still think that for something to become a relationship from a vague... something, you need the person in flesh and bones, and not the words of the person on a PC screen. Just my two cents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice, CindyCares.
I wouldn't consider myself to be needy or insecure so that wouldn't be an issue for me, but I just wanted someone else's opinion so thank you for your time :)
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (3 August 2014):
I guess it depends from whom you ask. There are several posters, and also a few Aunts I think, in LDRs with people at ridicolous distances from them, and they seem to be OK with it, or even happy.
To me, it would make no sense asking her when you know you'll see her twice in a year for a few days only . I think you should embark in LDRs.. when you have no other choice ( like, you are already firmly together but either one gets relocated for wotk ) or, when you have the time, the money and the possibility to visit often, or reasonably often. Other than that... then in practice you do not have a partner, you have the fantasy of having a partner when in fact she is actually more like a pen-pal, and a cause for worrying, stressing out and pining if you are the even ever-so- slightly insecure type or ever-so-slightly needy type.
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