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writes: I have this friend who's in a relationship with a guy. And the guy she's with ignores her and blames all of the problems on her. I'm trying to tell her it's not her fault. She also tells me she likes me (as more then just a friend) to because I always listen to her and make her happy. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): A woman complaining to you about her BF has nothing to do with her actually being near breaking up with him. She may be using you for an emotional tampon and she will keep this up with him for years while you soak up all the shit she vents about him. If she knows you are into her and she doesn't break up with him pretty quickly, then she never will break up with him to get with you.
The way to force her hand is to let her know you are looking for another girl since she is not interested. Stay friends with her but make yourself a little less available.
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reader, Trinklett  +, writes (18 August 2011):
 If she likes you as much as she claims, she should end it with her bf and be with you.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (18 August 2011):
 Be a good friend to her and if you like her there is no harm in flirting and giving her hints that you are into her. It sounds like she is looking for a reason to leave her bf and you could be it.
If you make it known to her that you are interested then things should work out. There is proof that the nice guy does win in the end.
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