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writes:I have recently found out (i say recently, bout, what, 4months ago?) Found out that i am bisexual. I am quit scared" as i believe that gay relationships are wierd and creepy and so are the people in them. Also i have no idea what any of my family think of that sort of thing. I generally dunno what to do. I have only told 4 of my closest friends sp far. What do i do?!?!?!? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 August 2014):
 You do not have to do anything, since at 13-15 you are not even supposed to be sexually active either with males or females. Being sexually active ( by which I do not mean just intercourse , obviously ) at 15 is imprudent, premature, emotionally damaging and more than you can handle in many ways. At 13... it's simply horrifying, and a serious criminal offence.
So what you are sexually is a moot point. You can use the next few years until you become ready to handle sex ad relatioships ( and I do not mean just ready according to the law, but ready physically, mentally and emotionally )
to figure it out and to observe how your impulses / attractions / inclinations evolve- some times they are the real you, and many others , at your age, just a natural exploratory, " curious " phase.
In short- you'll cross that bridge when you'll reach there, and in the meantime , maybe you'll want to abstain from making official declarations to " only " your closest friends ( which in your case, seem to be quite a few to tell secrets to... I wonder how many the not-so-close friends are... one hundred ?) )
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reader, Forge  +, writes (18 August 2014):
 I would just like to backtrack slightly on this. I noticed you're the same age as me. Ready for the most annoying thing ever? I don't think you're bisexual, I think you're bicurious. But be young, hop on the train to adventure, and live your life as you see fit.
As we grow older, then we will have a better understanding of our sexuality. I'm not talking next year, or 2 years, but when you're around 20-24, and having serious relationships.
I'm going to be a hypocrite from my other posts, but relationships right now are a bust. Until you have a car and money and a job, you literally have no reason to date.
Don't worry about who you love, or what you should or shouldn't be sexually focused on, just relax. And don't be "doing the nasty" until you are with a guy (or girl) you know will never wrong you, and you will never wrong themm.
That's the thing here and today. Get with someone, bang 'em, and then make a big deal out of it 9 months later, after they left you.
-Førg€-
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (17 August 2014):
 Just because you are attracted to someone does not mean that you have to have a relationship (or sexual intercourse or whatever) with them. You should never have a relationship that you feel is weird or creepy. Not acting on all of your desires or attractions is what being a mature adult is all about. Being a married man I understand that very well. I may be sexually attracted to many women this week. But I only have a relationship with one of them. Having a relationship with all or any of the others would be bad. Society would see it as dishonest. It would go against my personal beliefs. In short I would think that it was weird and creepy.
So what do you do? You follow your beliefs and you restrain your desire for other women. You go ahead and enter into relationships that you are comfortable with.
FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2014): ONLY told 4 of your friends in 4 months?! That's a lot. Stop rushing it. First of all, as you mature, hopefully you'll open up your mind about not judging people based on their orientation or anything else meaningless. You might not be bisexual in a few years; sometimes it's a phase and sometimes it's not. The thing about being bisexual is that you can still date only guys, if that's what you wish.
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