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writes:I really need some help here, I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago...since then I've noticed that I've been getting feelings for my closest female friend. I talked to her about my feelings and she said she doesn't want to jeopardize our friendship by going out with me, so now I ask this...How do I deal with these feelings, how do I make them go away, or is there a chance she might see me in a different light sometime down the road?
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reader, dangerouslove. +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Sometimes, when a guy and a girl are best friends - they are inlove and don't even realize it.
I have a best friend. We've been best friends for almost two years and during that short, yet somewhat long period of time, we've been through alot, gone through alot, and made it through alot. One night when we got together, we kissed. All the feelings that I never knew where there, came rushing before me. It felt like I had just fell inlove right then and there, and he felt the same.
Fortunatley, I have great amount of faith in our friendship and I think that if we ever did decide to take it further, I trust that our friendship would not fall through, even if we didn't make it.
Do you feel that way? Do you feel as if you guys dated and broke up, things could still be the same way they are now? If you answer is no, cut yourself a break and her too, move on from it.
Theres no point in putting a great friendship at risk for a relationship that could last a month and have a nasty breakup at the end too. I'm sure you don't want that. I think you are very mixed up in your feelings, and you miss having someone in your life to cuddle up beside and kiss, and all that other cute stuff.
But trust me, there are alot of girls out there. Try your best not to fall inlove with your best friend.
She could change her mind overtime, but until then, give it a rest.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you gabberjackranch, your advice really helped!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): She may see you in a new light down the road, and she may not...there is nothing wrong with "Just Being Friends." Friends last a life time. Just try looking for other lovley women to ocupy your time. You may find just the right one...or you could find a pshcho!! Just kidding. Just try having fun, and don't take it all to seriously. Lots of luck Booger Boy!!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Mate,
she may see you in a different light in the future. But right now you are on the rebound and if you don't mind me being frank with you, you are jeopardising your friendship with this girl. You may end up losing a girlfriend and a good friend in the space of a month.
Get a grip on yourself mate, ring your friend and apologise to her, tell her that you value your friendship and you wouldnt want to do anything to harm that.
For gods sake man, get yourself together and stop acting like a love sick teenager. It is never a good idea to bounce from one relationship to another. Give yourself time and maybe somewhere down the line you two might get together, but she sounds like she has her head screwed on straight so be glad you have a good female friend you can rely on. Don't screw it up.
Good luck.
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