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writes: ive recently cheated on my partner with his friend our relationship has revolved around him and his friends for so long i just didn't know what i was doin i love him very much and we have a small daughter he took me back initially but now has told me he wants to end our relationship we are still currently living in the same house but it's up for sale.will he take me back our am i heading for heartake. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): your worried about your heart ache, but what about his?
this man has just found out the mother of his child and his ''friend'' have both betrayed his trust. most likely leaving him to feel very isolated and alone with no one he can turn to for trust and friend ship. did you think of this when you were ruining his life?
he may have said he forgave you, but like most people the pain is too much and the trust is gone. if you cant earn that trust back (and after what youve done i doubt that very much)then im affraid your raising your daughter alone. and if he does leave, give him access to the child, its the least he deserves after you detroying him.
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reader, des16  +, writes (24 November 2006):
 im sorry to say, if you cheated how can you say u love him?
if he is talking of ending it then still living in the same place together is making things more confusing to you, him and most probably the child between you both.
every1 gets lonely urges, but its up to you and the amount of love and respect that you have for your family and for yourself if you chose to act on it.
once a partner has cheated then the other will most probably never forget. it hurts so much.
you may say it only happened once but the fact of the matter is that it happened full stop.
trust is such a presious gift to give and recieve, when it is lost it beomes too hard to find.
if you did stay together would guilt consume you, that you then couldnt trust your partner? if he went out and was seen laughing with another girl, would you accuse him of cheating too?
fights would be your lives, not good for the child or yourself.
my advise to you is to let him decide the next move. if he decides he wants to leave you, yea sure you will be hurting, but not as much as he will be. let time pass you may find that your heart wasnt truely there for him but for the child he gave you.
i hope you find comfort in my words.
but i truely hope you can find happiness what ever happens
xxx
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