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writes: Hello,I am 28yrs old, have been in many relationships. I started dating a 32 year old about 2 months ago. Things were going great with us, so I thought...one day she was upset at the fact that I was not being affectionate with her and didn't kiss her when i saw her, hold her hand when we met for lunch, etc. She took that as a sign as me being shy when in fact I didnt want to rush into things as fast as she wanted. Then I started to fall for her and become more affectionate.... It got hot one night between the two of us, it was amazing, the the next day she started acting strange and aloof...its like she had a contingency plan and had me tagging along until things fell into place for her. I now get the feeling that she is seeing someone else and she is brushing me off. I try so hard to make plans with her she gives me the "Im real busy" line and then ends up going out with some guys that she bikes with to a movie and tells me how great they are and that they want to swim with her and ski with her. I wish I could do that with her...Im a very athletic guy and love the outdoors and to be active. She claims to be an independant woman yet is always out surrounded with other people...I dont know if I should keep on persuing her anyomre or just move on...I know Im falling for her and I fear that its almost to late to do anything...when i was with her on a date, she mentioned to me that many guys she met dont call her anymore and Im starting to realise why - I have been calling her and she has been screening my calls, getting back to me via e-mail saying that she had plans and didnt get back until late in the evening (shes with her biker friends) - I cant stop thinking about her and I miss her... The moment I open my heart to her, she acts so cold to me - I have not felt this way for a women in a long time. I think I love her and fear its to late to do anything... Any advice would be appreciated...Thanks in advance..
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2006): I don't think it is ever too late, she may be dating other men because she does not think you are serious about her and she does not want to get hurt.
If you are falling for her, you need to ask her for the relationship that you want, which sounds like and exclusive one, maybe she has been waiting for you to ask her, you will never know this unless you tell her.
It sucks to be rejected, but in love we have to allow ourselves to be vulnerable to someone else even if we get rejected sometimes.
She has not told you to go jump in a lake has she?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): Tell her how you feel. Tell her you want a committed relationship.
If she says she doesn't or gives you a vague response then move on.
Tell her then.
Then move on.
Take care of you heart.
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