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writes:I have a boyfriend who I've been with for a bit more than a year, but before our anniversary we fell out (Broke up and made up 4 times) and I cheated on him with our friend who had a crush on me.The friend shares a lot of interests and hobbies that I have and is really fun to hang out with, but I turned to him when I had a problem with my boyfriend which formed a bond between us.My boyfriend took me back, and I've told him I'm ashamed of myself and that it was a horrible mistake to have broken his trust, but I'm still friends with the other guy.The other guy doesn't try to be intimate with me or to even talk about the past. We just like to talk and to have good clean fun. The problem now is that my boyfriend doesn't want me to see him anymore or any of my friends which hang out with him. I'm not sure about going places with my boyfriend's friends because he's told everyone about what I've done. Does anyone know how I should handle this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou've all been really helpful. I suppose it's a real shame to have to get rid of my friend, but is there a way to let him down nicely?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): no you really shouldnt be friends with the guy! think about if it was the other way around. im sure you wouldnt want him bein friends w the girl!? as for hangin out w ur bf friends ? tell him how u feel tell him ur embarrassed... then c wat u guys can work out? mayb even try 2 mke new friends u can both hang out w? mayb u could try atleast sometimes 2 hang out w his friends even tho its hard? i no how u feel and i no how ur bf feels too. ask ur bf 2 hang out w u and ur friends sometimes as well minus the guy u cheated w? good luk!
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reader, No_Nonsense  +, writes (18 February 2009):
 Hi there
It's a tricky situation. If you and this crush you had an affair with are really just good friends and nothing more, it can be tough to break that friendship.
But then from your boyfriend's point of view, i can totally see why he would want you to break ties with him!
You cheated with him! So now that you are hanging out, it makes your boyfriend feel mistrusting of you. That's normal and you have to be sensitive of your boyfriend's feelings if you want the relationship to work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you.
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