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writes: Hello, I'm 13 and I live in the nice part of Kent. I'm really stuck at the moment because I have a really nice boyfriend, and we used to share everything, except now I have a problem - my best friend, who went out with him in year 7 is being a complete bitch. She still fancies him and boy does she let him know it. She's not my "best" friend - we're in a little circle of about five and me and my boyfriend (yes, he hangs out with all the girls) and she won't leave us alone. She won't take a hint. she will spontaniously come up behind me, shove me away from (lets call him C) C and practically starts drooling on him! He's flattered but he won't cheat, I know that. the problem is, C really likes her in a best friend sort of way - its not quite like that (it's a love-like relationship of types I guess, though that sounds most peculiar written down) and seems almost oblivious to her constant, outrageous flirting. I was OK at first but now its rediculas - a boy in yr7 (we'd just had a go at him for flirting with a yr 9) said that why was it OK for her (L) to be going out with him (C) and he couldn't go out with so-and-so? This cut deeper than I let on, but I sort of let it pass.It doesn't help that everyone outside the circle thinks he's either gay or camp (which, I admit, he is a little) and I get a lot of stick for going out with him.So, how do I let this girl know to lay off? I don't want to get rid of her, because C likes her but what am I to do?Helena x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): cheers.
actually inbetween writing the question and this i had a big row with him via text (well, as big as two soppy 13yearolds can have) and I don't know what I should do come monday because he made it pretty clear he wasn't going to see me until then. I know this girl will thrive at the chance to widen the gap between us. I will talk to him tomorow, get the girls to keep L away somehow.
Helena xxx
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reader, No_Nonsense  +, writes (18 February 2009):
 Hey there :)
Sheesh, it sucks when outsiders try to get involved in your relationship! That girl is wrong to do that because she knows you and him are dating, but the thing is that if you target her it will either a) just make you seem jealous and mean, or b) make your boyfriend angry because they're also friends. I think it would be best to speak to your boyfriend about this seeing as though you are the ones in the relationship. When speaking to him about her, just tell him how it makes you feel. Don't sound childish or jealous, coz that won't be good! Just tell him that she should have boundaries because it's making you feel uncomfortable. As you say, he seems oblivious to it - guys usually are!
However, the thing about what you've written is that he obviously loves the attention! So if you come across as jealous, it's just gonna make him love the attention more coz now he's in the middle of two girls.
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